My son

Coping with bereavement
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I can’t cope with the loss if my son who died November 24th 2916 unexpectedly he was my only child everything around me reminds me of him and I just burst into tears its so hard I miss every second of every day I just want to go and be with him

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Dear charliedan I’m new to this.ive been reading but only just joined. I can feel your heartbreak even from your few words.i can’t imagine how gut wrenching this must be for you. I don’t want to blah on with “it will get easier and time will help” I can’t say this for sure .i can only say how brave your being up to now. Your awake.your up. You’ve got yourself online and your reaching out. That is massive. Mine is a different story. I lost my precious partner in jan this year. I’ve gone thru countless emotions.didnt really sleep any good for 40 days. Tired.lost and alone although surrounded by support. Not religious but feel there is more to than this life and my darling strongly believed there is more.where do you stand on this? Please keep browsing around here on this site and maybe someone can better help you than me. Someone who has been thru similar. It’s just not the right order of things that your son has gone.its just not fair. We had(now I have) an only son and I can’t bear even thinkin of him going.you are so so brave and he will be huggin you and tellin you so.here is a hug from me too.x

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Hi Charliedan,

I’m so sorry to hear about your son.You must miss him very much and it is understandable that you are struggling.

When you say that you want to be with him, does that mean that you have had thoughts of suicide? I think you could really do with some support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • The Samaritans are always there 24/7 if you need to talk about anything that’s bothering you (116 123, or jo@samaritans.org). You do not need to be having suicidal thoughts to call them.

  • You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

  • Child Bereavement UK - supports families with the loss of a child of any age. 0800 02 888 40. http://www.childbereavementuk.org

  • The Compassionate Friends - supports families who have lost a child of any age. 0345 123 2304. https://www.tcf.org.uk

You deserve care and support so please, Charliedan, get in touch with one of these services.

If you are at risk of harming yourself, please call 999, go to A&E or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

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Thankyou I’m trying my best to deal with it and I’m so sorry for your loss x

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Thankyou I’m trying my best to deal with it and I’m so sorry for your loss x

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Dunno what else to say.i can’t imagine…my darling was fighting cancer for 11 years.fought so hard and managed to work/live/holiday and play sport thru 10 of those years so I suppose you could say we were lucky.Everyones story is slightly different but in some ways the same.we are lost souls who want time to pass to get with our loved ones again.i’m 48 and want to be old old old. I look for little signs and cry every day.today is day 71… I hope you have some support.a spouse partner or some family.this is too much to bear on your own.thinking of you and sending you an online hug.xxxx