My stepdad died

My dad died Sunday at 10.30 am we have found out that he had no means of us paying for his funeral he sed he had a funeral plan and life insurance but didn’t and my sister are not talking or helping i have to do it all and empty the bungalow him and my mum lived it to return to the council and its a tip i can’t afford to pay for the funeral i work 13hour night and don’t get paid if i don’t work im snaping at my wife and getting pains in my chest with stress my mum died on 15 .05.2021 and i still keep crying over her loss im just at my wits end

I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad, @Andy59. It sounds like you’re carrying so much on your shoulders right now. Please be gentle with yourself; you are coping with so much and deserve care and support.

You may have already tried this, but this website outlines how to track down a funeral plan if you’re not sure if someone had one. Moneyhelper also has some advice on what to do if you’re unable to pay for the funeral.

Please do remember that you’re never alone - there is always someone to help you through this.

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

I hope you find the community to be a support to you, too. Take care,

It’s a difficult time for you, definitely worth checking if there was a funeral plan in place, maybe even enquiring through your local undertaker or one who did your mums funeral. There is government help to pay cost of funerals as well, look on government site, the funeral director will also be able to give advice.
Try and not hold onto all this burden yourself there are people to help and you can come on here and vent how you are feeling.
Take care and I hope you get the support you need.