Loobyloo
I feel like that as well. Not sure advice is what I need though. Can’t change how it is and feelings. I feel like not important to anyone either like it was when we had each other. Yes can go out and do the distraction etc but still same. Isn’t necessary to try to fix it really. Lonely today because was expecting my five year old grandson to come and after got in special things for him I learnt all change and someone else had the pleasure.
So feel high and dry. Yes weeding garden and pottering and will go out etc. But when it happened before I could share my feelings with my husband and can only pretend to do so now.
I’m not sure how to post but trying . This is a bit of a wobbly day for me where I’m feeling pretty sad and pretty helpless . Weather stunning outside which is what my Christine loved but I now hate . I thought it might be helpful to say what I’m going to do even though I feel so bad . I’m going to get up and force myself to take my dog a walk .i can’t really be bothered but i know no one else is going to help me so i need to grind out a way to help . Wish me luck
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Oh Brian, youre allowed a wobbly day I have plenty of them.
I started very wobbly this morning but after a long talk to myself I’ve got up and decided I will go the wedding. Roger would want me to, he wanted me to carry on living and as hard as it is I really have to make a start.
Please know we all know how you feel, and you’re doing the right thing by making yourself carry on. I’m sure thats what Christine would want.
Step by step we’ll get there.
Good luck
Big hugs
Liz x
Your very strong liz and thank you for your message . I hope the wedding all works out ok ? As you say I’m sure our missing half’s would not be happy at us sitting brooding or unhappy . … but !!! …… Brian
Hi @Enorac sorry to hear that your grandson is not coming to see you. When you look forward to something then it doesn’t happen I know it makes me feel quite low. I hope today goes as good as it can. I’m feeling very low today. My day always starts with the same thought ‘what’s the point’. Two years and still feel the same…missing my lovely husband so much. Take care.x
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Thankyou Brian, but I don’t feel strong.
I am really having to make myself do it.
It would be all to easy to roll over in bed in the morning and stay there. But I can’t let that happen,. So I get up and get washed and dressed and then I try to go out.
I am feeling more positive today, but that’s happened before and then I came crashing down, so we’ll see.
I do hope you can start to have more positive days too
Big hugs
Hi @Loobyloo2
I’m sorry you’re feeling low today.
There’s not a lot I can say but I can send you hugs. Big ones
Take care
That’s hard to deal with re your grandson . I hope alternative arrangements can be made for you . I’m wondering if you have friends you can spend some time with instead . Ones who are empathetic . In my case my friends provide astonishing support whilst my family don’t . I guess they just have busy lives and move on with that . Doesn’t make you or me feel any better and what I’m seeing /feeling is that this is now all down to me to deal with effectively on my own . I have absolutely no inclination or intention to look for another relationship so I look about for some alternative support such as this site which will hopefully provide that …… and allow me to perhaps provide some small modicum of support for others . Brian
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Hopefully realising this is now normal for us and we’re all going through the same helps a bit . Brilliant to get up and ready though … that’s a big plus . Who knows you might actually enjoy the wedding . I hope so .
I’m back my walk and have decided to go for a coffee . My only drug !!
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@Liro thank you for the hugs. I could really do with a hug from my husband. He gave the best hugs. I hope your day goes well.x
Loobyloo
Thank you for replying.
I guess I just weeded the garden in the end. Suppose it is somewhat mindful to do that.
Please continue to post. We all understand.
Take care,
Rose