He was my world, he saw me bleed for the first time, he was a father to me as my own father was very messed up. He was the man I looked for in every man, he was not perfect but he didn’t deserve to die at 43 leaving two children behind. I blame myself that maybe if I had helped him more financially he could have gotten all the help he needs.
Hello @ENNY,
I’m so sorry to hear about your brother. You are not alone - if you have a look through some of the conversations in our Losing a sibling category, you can find others who have sadly experienced the death of their brother or sister.
You might also find our Losing a sibling resource helpful to read. It walks you through some of what you might be feeling right now:
Be gentle with yourself right now 
Seaneen
Hi, I lost my brother a year and half now, he was my saviour, he brought me up. He didn’t wake up from a simple operation. The pain is not any lesser, I would give up anything just to talk to him. There is not a day I don’y think about him.
WE all can only feeI our own pain, hurt and guilt. Maybe you can carry on helping his family anyway you can.
I haven’t got anyone anymore apart my husband now. so treasured those who are close to you. All the pain and guilt is very tiring. i tried to be gentle, but is not easy. Friends and family can only do so much. I wish you well.
Hello
You say you would give anything just to talk to your brother again.
Can I ask you please to keep talking to him, he is in spirit, he can still hear you.
When we lose out loved ones to spirit, we only lose the physical person we once had and held dearly.
I lost my dear and amazing mum on new year’s day 2014 in her short battle against the evil that is cancer
I struggled, I felt lost, alone, and empty.
I went to bed one evening and asked my dear mum to help me in dealing with her loss, I asked her for guidance, and to help heal the pain I was feeling
From that day on everything changed, I found myself talking to my mum, often doing it without even knowing it. God bless my dear mum, but she gets blamed for everything now, if it’s raining when I have to go out, it’s mums fault, if there is nothing on the TV it’s mums fault. If I lose something it’s my dear mum’s fault.
And by doing this, I found I could still talk to my mum, I just had to learn to do it in a different way.
Spirit is amazing, you will be amazed how it’s shapes and guides us.
God bless you. X
Hi Dalton, Thanks for telling me your experience. I often tell him I will be away when he was alived. Even we are thousand miles apart.
When he passed, I pray to him everyday for 100 days, the last day a butterfly came in stand on his picture. It gives me warmth and sadness.
I do like to believe in spirit. But is it our sub conscious? Never know. May your mum keep looking after you. keep well. kind regards.
Hello Cloudy.
It is ok to believe, its ok to disbelieve in the spirit world.
It is often the case that we only believe what we see. Which as adults we are programmed to do.
It’s also often the case that children will experience encounters with their spirit guides because they don’t have the filters we have had growing up.
Where are our loved ones? Why can’t we see them? Are often questions I get asked.
And all I can say is, imagine a helicopter sat on the ground in front of you, it’s not moving. You can see it’s rotor blades, and even count them.
Then as it takes off, you can no longer see the rotor blades or count them, but we know they are there, they have to be there because that’s what makes it take off.
Where is Facebook? No one really knows, but nearly everyone is connected to it. Our hearts and minds are only focused on what we see
Along with the butterfly that landed on your brother’s photo, I am guessing you will have a much greater experience in the future. It may come by way of a dream, the difference will be that it will be so vivid you will recall every detail of that dream when you wake up.
Spirit vibrates at a different level to us here on earth, in order for there to be a connection, they have to lower their vibrations and energy and we raise ours. This usually happens between the hours of 0200am and 0500am when we are in our most relaxed state.
Look out for the signs from your brother, things repeatedly ng themselves, numbers you keep seeing over and over again.
It could be something as simple as the name of a person you haven’t seen for a while, and the next day you bump into them, a song you were thinking of recently and it plays on the radio. That’s how spirit let us know they are around us.
Your brother will be watching over you, and guiding you.
God bless you x
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