My thoughts and feelings at night

Losing a partner
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I suppose everybody goes through this after losing someone dear.The loneliness the feeling empty inside. But at night this is the worst time, my wife died in September and I still haven’t slept in the bedroom since.I thought putting lins ashes in there would help but it doesn’t I still feel lonely and it’s worse because of the longer darker nights but I muddle through with a few tears and talk to her I’m crying now and the dog is looking at me as if I have gone stupid.I know there is help out there just like what you wonderfully people provide but you have still got to help yourself it’s hard to be strong especially at night when your feelings are more amplified.Most people will go through this I know because I’m in that position.There is always help.But I think every night be strong it will soon be morning.

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Yes I feel exactly the same here now. Am still up as I find I can’t go to bed early anymore. If I go to bed later, it makes it shorter until morning time. The loneliness at night is horrendous. I hope it gets easier but I just can’t see it at the moment. At night me and Ray would talk about the day and spend ages making plans for the weekend as we all do. The silence in the house is cruel and my cat looks at me as if I’m daft too! Best wishes to all of us in this terrible situation

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Yeah I know what you mean I didn’t go to sleep last night and I’m still up now

Best wishes

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I feel the same, a testament to how much we adored and loved our persons. They were Our soulmates, to which I never imagined living without. It’s really impossible after 46 years. I agree, sleep is elusive these days, even though that’s all I want to do. Take care

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i have tried ghoing to bed early and late, but the most i sleep is about 4 hrs. up at 2 this morning. i get cat naps later in the morning but cant sleep long at night. strange as the first 3 yra after his death i slept okish

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Hi SueF1,

Yeah I’m the same if I go to bed to early I’m up early hours so I stay up till 3am and sleep till may 7,8am but in the new year I’m hoping to go back to my old job so things might level out god I can’t wait.

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@Salfordinion wont change for me i am 70, plus i worry about evrything which doesnt help

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