My wife died suddenly on a cruise ship last November and my feeling of missing her has got worse
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Morning @Laurief
I am so sorry for your loss , I lost my husband suddenly 9 months ago . The shock and following months are horrible. There are lots of lovely supportive people on here l hope you find some peace. Do you attend any bereavement cafe . I go to one once a month and find really helpful. I hope you find some peace in your day .
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Thank you for the message. Where and how can I find a bereavement cafe. I would like to go. I wasn’t too bad for the first six months but her barthday came and the finality hit me hard.
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Hello, I think at first where in shock and then we have a lot of admin to sort out so our emotions are pushed down but when everything is sorted, people go back to their normal life’s & we are left to get on with, it really hits hard, you’ve made a good start by coming onto this site
Hello @Laurief
My heart goes out to you for your loss.
I think many of us on this forum find our grief kicking in quite a while after the event. This is possibly because at the time we are distracted to a certain extent by things that have to be done and there is also a sense of disbelief that this can’t be happening, that we will wake up from a terrible nightmare.
I lost my wife suddenly to a heart attack in December 2024 and, as the truth sinks in, I’m now trying to work out what happened and put things in context. I suppose I’m looking for the meaning of life really. I’ve gained some comfort from learning about the spiritual side of our existence but that isn’t for everyone.
For now, I can only recommend living each day as it comes and take care of yourself. I try not think about the future because that is unpredictable and, as far as I’m concerned, it can take care of itself.
You will find new friends on this website who truly understand what grief means.
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Hi Laurief, I lost my husband suddently 3 and half months and the pain was unbearable the first 2 months. These days I have horrid days and some that are a bit more bearable - though not helped by the appalling amounts of bureaucracy that come with the death of a spouse. I find some comfort reading about afterlife and near death experiences and the only thing that comforts me is knowing one day I will join my husband in heaven. wishing you a good day!
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Hi @Laurief
Sorry it took so long for me to reply I have only just seen your message. There are usually bereavement cafes run in local churches you don’t have to be religious to attend. Also you might find them run by local hospices. If you google bereavement cafe s in your area if should come up with something for you . My first 2 months were horrible. I started to feel a bit better , when I got to 6 months I felt like I’d hit a brick wall back to square one . I am now 9 months on and have better days , some not so good days . I hope you find some peace in your day. Look after yourself
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Knowing this keeps me going and comforts me, too.
Every day I pray for my beloved Fanny 
, asking God to bless her and to convey my infinitely strong, eternal love to her.
Somehow she is always at my side.
We always walked hand in hand.
So sorry about the traumatic loss of your beloved wife.
You wanted to have a wonderful cruise and it turned into a horrible nightmare.
I also miss my darling wife so much, even though she is somehow still with me.
But it’s not the same.
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