My wife of 34 years is dying of cancer after surgery, and 7 months of chemo that did not work. I am caring for her with my step daughter who lives 2.5 hours away but staying with me at present for which I am truely thankful. From walking on a beach two weeks ago she is now bed bound and in palliative care given days maybe a week to live but I see the life draining from her and it is devastating. She has made my life whole and complete , and I cannot envisage life without her. I am so afraid of life without her and I am supposed to be Mr Strongman who runs a medium sized company. Every thing I have , everything I am is because of the belief and support my wife has put behind me. I don’t have children of my own and as I mentioned my step daughter lives 2.5 hours away and has a full life of her own. I am shell shocked, deeply sad and struggling to see life after my amazing wife.
I am so sorry for your situation. I am sure that you are giving her all the love and comfort that you can. It is so hard for you and your step daughter. Just remember how much you have cared for her. My heart goes out to you. 
Thank you Rob, having read various postings from a number of people on the site , I feel I am in the right place for support given the number of people who are grieving about the loss of their loved ones. I can honestly say I have never had such emotions ever even with the loss of my dad 25 years ago or my mum 5 years ago. The loss of my soul mate , my reason for living I am finding impossible to deal with. The messages from our friends detailing kindness she has shown to others are heart breaking . I will certainly need this community to help me through. Thanks again for you support.
There is nothing that compares to the loss of the love of your life. I cared for my husband at home in may last year for the last 10 days. Although every day is a struggle without him, knowing he died with us at home does give me comfort as I knew it was where he wanted to be. It’s so hard to do, make the most of every moment
Hi Ned
Thinking of you at this most difficult time. I lost my husband in September 2024. We had nearly 40 years together. There are many of us who are experiencing similar grief.
Kate
Thank you Kate any form of kind words just brings tears in floods . I really feel hopeless but it really helps to have people like you around for support. Thank you
You are very welcome. Here to chat if you would like to.
Kate
Hi Nedh,
I am so sorry for you’re situation. I know it’s soul destroying, watching the one you love slip away. I lost my wife in January 91/2 weeks after she was diagnosed with cancer. She had just started chemotherapy her first go and she went 2 days later. I am glad you have someone helping you. I tryed my best to look after Sue on my own. Sue collapsed at home. You have done amazing looking after your wife. Try and look after yourself, i know its hard as you are focused on your wife. Take care
I am so sorry for your sudden loss , to have your soul mate taken so quickly has to be devastating so I consider ourselves very privileged to have this time with her. Thank you so much for your helping words
Ned
Thank you Sandi and apologies for my late reply. I am just trying to get used to the site. I am so sorry for your loss . When people ask how long we have been together I somethings really have to pinch myself . It’s the emptiness that’s hard but you are right and we are making the absolute most of our time with her now even though she is becoming less verbal. Since I posted last week she really has deteriorated god bless her. Thank you for your support.