I don’t know what to do with myself. I lost my 22 year old boy 12 days ago. It’s always been my worst nightmare since I lost his dad when I was pregnant with my son. He was 28.
My son was laughing and fine at 11am by 11.03 his fisnce was calling an ambulance.
I have never felt pain like this. I lost my mum 4 years ago and thought that was hard but this is unbearable , I can’t even explain how I’m feeling. He leaves behind his lovely fiancé and a gorgeous 4 month old daughter. He was so happy being a dad and was a natural.
We don’t know the cause yet as they have had to send his heart for further testing.
I know it’s early days I know it’s going to painful. I just want to sleep for 6 months. Just can’t get my head around it at all. It’s so unfair
I can see that you’re new to the community. I hope you find it to be a support to you, but I am so sorry for the loss of your son that brings you here.
You’re not alone. Sadly, many of our members have experienced the death of their son or daughter and will understand the pain that you’re going through. I’m sure someone will be along to share their support. In the meantime, I wanted to share these resources with you.
Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
Sue Ryder also has some resources which can help you cope with grief.
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
I am so, so sorry for your loss. Just reading your words has brought tears to my eyes, even though I don’t know you personally. What you are going through is every parent’s worst nightmare, and it is so deeply unfair and cruel. To lose your son so suddenly, so young, especially after already losing his dad and your mum… it’s an unbearable amount of pain for one heart to carry. The shock of how quickly everything changed, from laughter to an ambulance within minutes, is something no one should ever have to process. My heart aches for you, for his fiancé, and for that beautiful little baby who will grow up knowing how deeply loved her dad was. The fact that he was such a happy, natural father makes this loss even more heartbreaking. Wanting to sleep, to escape the pain for a while, makes complete sense. There is nothing wrong with feeling that way. This kind of grief is raw, overwhelming, and all-consuming, especially so soon after losing him. There are no words that can make it better, just know that your feelings are valid, and you are not weak for feeling this broken.
I am holding you and your family in my thoughts. I am so sorry you are living through this.
As Justyna said in her post, it is an unbearable amount of pain to lose a child.
The loss is too great to comprehend and the feelings of pure bewilderment, sorrow and unimaginable loss are so profound, it feels like your heart will break into a million pieces.
I too lost my son aged 25, 6 weeks ago to a rare skin cancer and I completely understand how you feel.
Your world has completely and utterly been shattered.
Im sat here , like you , and I cannot believe that I have lost my boy.
I sit for hours on end just holding his casket containing his ashes with tears streaming down my face and my heart shattered beyond repair.
The feelings of bewilderment at this time are overwhelming and like you, I sit and ask why.
Please take comfort in this site with people who truly understand the pain you are feeling at this moment in time and will offer support and kindness.
Again , I am truly sorry for what has happened to your beautiful son and know that you are not alone.
Jo xx
