Nan & Grandad

I lost my grandad in 2019 but haven’t seen him since I was 7 years old due to moving to a different country.

My nan (on the same side/were married their whole life) passed away Saturday…

I haven’t seen her since I was 8/9 years old as she was able to visit once. I knew on Thursday she was getting worse and then I got the news on Saturday that she passed away.

I don’t know how to cope with it all. I never got to say goodbye to them both, I never got to go to my granddad’s funeral or to see his grave. I don’t think I’ll be able to go to my Nan’s funeral either.

I don’t have the money, neither do my parents. I don’t even know if my mum can (their daughter). As much as it’s hard for me, I can’t imagine what she’s going through.

This is the first night not being at my partner’s place since I found out about it all. It’s nearly 4am and I can’t sleep…

I have things I have to do, life is always so busy but at the same time I need time to grieve. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to be okay. I don’t know how to tell people because I’m not good with the I’m sorry and sadness in their eyes as I’m awkward.

I don’t want to nearly cry in public or to actually cry in public. She’s died mother’s weekend. What if someone asks how my mother’s day was?

I lost my Nan and had to somehow tell my mum happy mother’s day but I know you’re struggling because you found out your mum died the day before…

Sorry, I’m a mess rn.

Hi @PinkLion143,

I’m really sorry you’re facing such a difficult time following the loss of both your grandad and nan. Grief is deeply personal, and your feelings are valid - the timing must have been so hard for you and your mum this weekend.

This community is here to support you, so please keep reaching out.

Take care of yourself,
Naoise

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