Narcissistic mum died

Hi, lost my narcissistic mother on Saturday. I am shocked by how sad I am one minute yet angry the next for all the wasted time. We had a difficult relationship. I think I am struggling to come to terms with this

You will be in shock at the moment, expect all kinds of feelings you never knew before.
I haven’t lost my mum yet, she’s 85, but I feel that she has already gone. It’s taken me my lifetime to realise what she is like. We cannot choose our parents.
Try to look after yourself now, you are fragile. I hope that you can find some peace soon.

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I can empathise, I thought many years ago that it would be a relief. Thankfully these last few years she needed more help so things changed, she had loss, then also alzheimers. We became much closer. So I asked for this pain now I suppose. It’s very hard to manage. We just have to be kind to ourselves and cope any way we can. Anger, sadness, numbness, all feelings that are valid and many more

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