Hello I lost my husband on 28/1 suddenly this has been a horrible process had to wait on a post mortem which got done 13/02 then I could start organising his funeral which is taking place tomorrow I’m at a loss of how to deal with this we have two adult children and a ten year old who doesn’t want to talk and just keeps telling me he wants to die and be with his dad what am I supposed to do.
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Sorry for your loss
It’s very early and things are very raw.
Give it time with your son - kids tend to be far more resilient than adults - but do keep an eye on him and see if he needs counselling after the funeral
Just focus on one thing at a time - if you try deal with everything at once it will just become too overwhelming.
Focus on the funeral with tunnel vision
After the funeral, focus on next item and so on
Stay strong through the funeral and I hope you have a support structure to help you
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Hello @Ruby49
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for reaching out to the community - I hope you find it to be a support to you.
You have asked how you can support your child through grief. @MemoriesOfUs has shared some great advice already, but you may also want to look at these resources:
- Sue Ryder has a guide on supporting a bereaved child which you may find helpful to read.
- Child Bereavement UK supports bereaved children, young people and families through grief. They have in-person and online support groups. The also have a free helpline on 0800 02 888 40, or you can email helpline@childbereavementuk.org.
- Winston’s Wish provides grief and bereavement support for children and young people (up to 25) after the death of someone important. They have a helpline that you can call free on 08088 020 021 between 8am-8pm, weekdays. They also have a live chat feature on their website.
Books can be a good way to help children understand death and grieving. If you search online you can find lots of suggestions. Here is a list from Scholastic that is a good start.
Take good care and keep reaching out,
Seaneen
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Sorry for this period and remember he is in a better place it’s well 
everything will be OK in now time just believe 