My son was diagnosed with a complicated type of Hodgkin’s lymphoma last year and has finished his treatment (apart from some complications) but has been told that his cancer is treatable but not curable. He was v poorly and nearly died from sepsis twice. 10 days after his second hospital admission we heard the news that my nephew was killed in a boating accident at the age of 27. I was very close to him and this has been a huge shock on top of everything else.
I’m very close to his sister and her mum and family (my brothers ex wife)- the people I’m struggling with and feel huge anger for are my side of the family.
They have been so unsupportive since my son was diagnosed with cancer (my parents have gone on holiday 5 times) & my middle brother who hadn’t seen my son or my nephew for over 5 years suddenly wants to ring me every 5 mins.
Tbh I’m avoiding them all or il say something.
So my question is this- how do I stop this anger and how do I deal with my family? Tia x
I’m so sorry to hear about your nephew’s death and your son’s illness. It is sad to hear that your parents and other family members have been unsupportive. I hope that it helps a little to have this space to get things off your chest.
Now is a time when you need to look after yourself and your son, so I don’t think there is anything wrong with limiting contact with certain family members if that’s what you need to do. However, if you feel that your anger towards them is negatively affecting your life, perhaps it would be worth considering some counselling to help deal with your emotions?