Hi Daisy, welcome to the club nobody wanted to join. As you say, we are all at different stages of grieving. My husband died suddenly 6 weeks ago. We were both already widowed when we met and our 16th wedding anniversary is in a couple of weeks. I am 68.
Hopefully, you will gradually regain interest in some of your hobbies soon.
I like gardening too, although I am just maintaining it right now, not really much enthusiasm yet.
But, we’ll get there eventually.
Love and hugs xx
Hi Daisy I am on the other side of the coin,I lost my wife eleven weeks ago,the people on this site are amazing,they give you support and understand what you are going through,I am sorry about your husband,stay strong love Ron.
Hi Daisy
I’d like to say welcome.
To the club no one wants to join.
We are all here for you to listen and support you.
We all understand, we are all going through it too. All at different stages
I have found it a lifeline. It has helped me through some very dark times.
You can say whatever you want here, no one will judge. If you want to ramble, ramble. If you want to rant, rant.
We will all support you.
Sending a big hug x x
Hi Daisy
Nice to meet you. We are all in this club nobody wants to join but that’s our new reality. This forum has helped me just by knowing that others do the same unexplained, weird, bizarre responses to the most innocent of things at times and I’m not going mad although that’s sometimes what it feels like.
I can relate to the nothing is of interest in the way it used to be. I can’t even to go out into my garden and that was my passion. I was throwing yet another meal I had prepared for myself as everything tastes bland and I realised in that moment that I had lost not only my appetite for just food but also have lost my appetite for life. It’s horrible and feels relentless but they say time heals. I hope that’s right for us all. Keep safe. Love to you xx
I can relate to “nothing is of interest any more”. I make greeting cards as a hobby but have no interest in doing any at the moment. We had plans for the garden but now he’s not here to see it I can’t bring myself to carry them out. My husband died three weeks ago. We were married for almost 10 years (he lost his first wife in 2012). The funeral is next Tuesday. I think the Church will be full because he was a Church of England vicar before retirement and served 22 years in the same parish church. I have received so many lovely cards from people who knew him, many saying how he had helped them over the years and how he will be missed.
I know so many will want to come to the Service and I am dreading it. I don’t want to end up a “soggy mess” but I don’t know how I will stop the tears.
At the moment nothing has any meaning for me. I know he would want me to be strong and carry on, but without him I can’t see a future. I know people say it will get better, it takes time, but we did everything together and I just can’t face doing things, even going shopping, without him.
Lije yourself life seems pointless. I keep thinking it should have been me. Gra was stronger than me he would have coped so much better.i just want to be with him end this horrendous pain . I live with constant pani. And what if questions. Xxxx
I’ve been through the “what ifs”. What if we’d seen a doctor before he was admitted to hospital. What if I’d pushed the doctors to try more. I guess all I’m doing is upsetting myself because I’ll never know and now it’s too late, because he’s not coming back to me.
I’m always giving myself “talkings too!! I’m the only now who can keep me in order! Currently I’m failing miserably! But a favourite saying of mine is
“Try harder, fail better” . So I’m really good at something. I’m hanging on to that.
Take care
Luv and hugs to you.
Well done you. That IS progress so take it whilst it lasts. We really don’t have much choice. Grief is an absolute bloody horrible rollercoaster we just have to learn to hold on tightly to our memories. They will get us through this. We loved and were loved. No one can ever take that away. How lucky we were although I appreciate it doesn’t feel like that now.
Take care
Luv and hugs to you xx
So sorry, Daisy. It’s very early in your grief journey. All of us understand how you are feeling and how hard it is. For now, rest as much as you can; healing takes a long time and a great deal of energy.
lovely and helpful 
u are not alone… thinking of you 
