Almost 16 months on and I accepted a date. Resisted before, but I felt stronger and the timing felt right. So, less than 2 weeks on and it is already all over. A flash in the pan. I wasn’t ready. Last night it would have been S’s birthday; his SIL called me and asked to meet up this Sunday. Subconsciously I must have felt the date but failed to acknowledge it.
Stupid, stupid me. Now I’m back to square one and I’m a wreck all over again.
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Hi @SadGirlfriend,
Thank you so much for sharing this with the community 
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard and you are not alone.
Take good care,
Alex
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@SadGirlfriend
Don’t beat yourself up about it.
You thought you were ready for a date but it didn’t work for you. It’s not a big deal. It shows you are ready to move on but it’ll take time.
When I lost my previous partner I wasn’t looking to meet anyone but I knew I would meet a guy just for a drink or meal out only as a friend. I met one who just was not my type at all so that was bye bye.
Then I met John who again wasn’t someone I ‘fancied’ and I think because I was making comparisons.
I didn’t want to see him again but something made me go a second time. The rest is history. He became my absolute soulmate and love of my life but he passed this March after just two n half years together…Devastating.
You might be as lucky as me but if you don’t it’s not meant to be…x
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Thank you @Mitzi1 for your response. I think I’ll go back to being single and making the most of my friends.
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16 months was about the same time as I dipped my toe in the water. Like others have said here, first time and it wasnt right for me. I now know that I wasn’t ready to date. So don’t beat yourself up over this, its a little like starting all over again and it takes time to figure out what it is you want and are looking for.
Best wishes
John
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@SadGirlfriend
I don’t know how old you are but would say enjoy, if you can, going out with your girlfriends. They are your support group and understand you.
If you are meant to meet a lovely man, and there’s lots out there, you will do. I believe in fate.
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