Dear Community. I lost my husband to colon cancer last Friday following his diagnosis eight months ago. We have been together for thirty five years and got married in March following the devastating news. We have no children only Nigel the cat who we rescued following our move back to our happy place’ .I am absolutely heart broken. It is his birthday next week and I lay him to rest on the 11th. I am trying to reach out for support from others who may have been in a similar position. I have chosen to be on my own since his passing at home with me as I feel closest to him.
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Thank you I havent been on for a couple of weeks. Its December tomorrow, hearing Christmas songs on the radio whilst at work. Decorations being put up, people smiling and chatting about festivities and inside i am doubling up un knots just wishing Darren to come home. I am going to visit my daughter tomorrow to go out for a meal as its her 25th on the 8th and my sons 24th on the 12th. Sat crying here knowing that I am going to have to be strong tomorrow. How do i keep going it’s been 9 months and its not getting easier. Darren died in a freak car accident he had so much going for him as for me i have disabilities both mental and physical and am in constant chronic pain. I dont understand why Darren and not me
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Hi, im so sorry, i lost my husband on 13th Nov, his birthday was on 18th his funeral was thurs and our wedding anniversary is on weds. I too am on my own with our 2 cats for company, i am lucky in support i have, but they are not who i want, i want my husband back. Ive spent today alone and dont know how i am getting through. I wish i had more to say and i know everyone says take hour by hour, day by day, which i guess is all we can do at the moment. The only thing i do which offers me some comfort is i write in a journal every night, about my day, i write it to my husband, for me its the last thing i do at night and then try and sleep, ready to try and navigate another day.
I hope that in someway my husband finds a way to reach out to me to let me know he is watching over me, as im so lost and lonely.
I find this forum a comfort as everyone on here knows what we are going through, there are some wonderful people who write such kind words.
Big hugs to you xx
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Dear Pooka
I lost my darling husband on 23 September unexpectedly. We were together 39 years. He had cancer 3 times over 8 years and sadly the latest diagnosis meant 2 different cancers. Chemotherapy proved too much for him and he passed very quickly. We had no children together but we were so very close. I miss him with every breath I take. Please just do what you feel is right for you.
Kate
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Many thanks for your replies, and I am so sorry to hear about your dear husbands. Thank you for your out reach. I am with’ you when you say you miss him with every breath Kate, and Mrs. S, I journal daily too. Littlewitch, I hear what you are saying, all the festivities going on around us, I am so so sorry your dear Darren was taken from you in this tragic way. I wonder why Pete and not me as he had so much more to live for in my opinion, than me. I am looking around at the smiling many and thinking we are all here for such a short time, our dear beloveds less than others. We the bereaved on one side and the rest of the world on the other, oblivious until it happens to them.
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