I’m new here lost my husband last September 43yrs married feel like my stomach is full of knots anxiety is very high just want to know how to get over these feelings
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Hi . I also lost my hubby last September we had been together 43 years married 39 . Even nearly eight month on I feel no better .I even think it is getting worse . I dread waking every morning and trying to get on with life . It is a life I don’t want now and didn’t expect .we were both 59 .so I thought we had a lot more years together . All I do is try and get through each day. Sometimes it’s each hour . Sorry for your loss .I don’t know how to help as I can’t even help myself.xtake carex
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Hi Mojo. I wonder if you ever do get over those feelings. My husband died 2 years ago just as we were about to go into lockdown depriving me of the support you’d expect from friends and family. We’d been married 46 years and the grief still “ambushes”, me without warning I will suddenly start to weep. We can only hope that it gets better with time.
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Hi Maureen, I too lost my husband in September last year. I know how you feel. I have a lovely family but even in company there are times when you feel completely alone. It was a hard day for me yesterday as our daughter got married. I put a brave happy face on for my family but sitting at the top table with my sons’ reading their dads speech (first draft) was emotionally draining and seeing my daughter in tears, dad dancing with uncle etc. was very difficult. She went to ‘see’ her dad before the ceremony and I’m going down shortly to put my corsage on his cross. I was with my husband for 40 years and married 37. He was simply the best and we miss him so much. x
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Hi all first post for me I have read many posts and know I am not alone
I lost my wife 18 months ago and had a period of calm after a traumatic time caring for her dying of cancer during covid ( no help to speak of) then grief hit me and I can’t believe I will not see her again, Sundays are long and lonely xx
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Hi .yes Sundays are long and lonely. They seem to go on forever . But most days are the same. I still work so that does help a little . But just wish every day my hubby was here with me . I love and miss him more and more each day .keep posting in here it does help knowing your not the only one feeling this way. I have had a lot of help just knowing there is someone to talk vent and listen to me .and know I’m not going mad in the way I’m feeling .sorry for your loss xtake carex
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Hi Dave I lost my husband last year and have never felt right since it’s so hard I find weekends really hard , I get terrible anxiety it comes in waves I do meditation and puzzles and walking I find it all helps although nothing is the same , I think we may never get over it but we just learn to move forward I feel I live in a bubble most of the time I’m just drifting here and there x Yvonne
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Sympathy to you Yvonne
Life moves on so quickly for other people, as it should they are in their own beautiful bubble, I now go to bed early just to get rid of another day. I cannot give up as I promised my wife I wouldn’t, I don’t cry as much but smile at the funny times x
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Thanks for your reply its nice to have a chat people Sunday are so long and when you have retired every day is long finding think to do all the time can be a challenge but will get there
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Hi Dave it does get easier I don’t cry every day like I use to but I feel I don’t have a future without him but I know I will one day , and I know he would want me to be happy but I can’t find it in me but yes I laugh sometimes my kids have been great but they all have there own lives I’m sure we will all be much happier one day , I couldn’t stand feeling this way forever xx Yvonne
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It’s tough reading so many struggling with grief .
It seems a huge problem that’s difficult to fix .I take small comfort I’m not the only one going through this .
I just can’t come to terms that she was taken from me. The most sweetest kindest woman ever. I feel my life is over
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Hi so sorry for your loss. This is the hardest life to live now without our true love beside us . I am sorry I can’t give you any hope or advice on how to get by . I plod on everyday glad the day is over. You will find it helps to read and post on this site . I miss and love my hubby more and more each day . Xtake carex