My husband died last week. He was diagnosed with a brain tumour in January. Just a little over a month and he was dead.
I’m struggling to come to terms with the sudden loss of a great man. I’m so lonely without him. Paperwork is daunting, not sure where to start. I’m usually so strong, but I feel so vulnerable.
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@Kaz21 I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s so early for you, you are undoubtedly in shock so please don’t put too much pressure on yourself to get things done. When my husband passed nearly 9 weeks ago I just gave myself one thing to do each day, just take everything a little at a time. Do you have family and friends to support you? Most importantly please take care of yourself and reach out on here whenever you need to, we all understand how you are feeling right now x
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I don’t have any support. My husband’s family are lost in their own grief and mine apart from my very elderly mother, they don’t care.
I have friends but I don’t want them to see me broken. I am always the strong one.
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hello i am sorry for your loss you said you have friends but dont want them to see you broken i dont think that would be their thoughts you are their friend and i am sure they would want to help speak to them your not broken your grieving as we all are you are still strong and in time that will help you but trust me tell them how you are feeling i lost my husband of 47 years and it is hard but i tell my sister how i am feeling all the time and it helps so my thoughts are with you good luck
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@Kaz21 it’s ok not to be strong all the time. If the situation were reversed I’m sure you would want your friends to reach out to you if they needed it, so why not lean on them for support, it’s difficult to try and do this on your own so I would say speak to your friends and if you cry then let it flow x
Kaz
I know what you mean about being vulnerable as that’s how I suddenly feel. You can’t go on being the strong one in these circumstances. Let your friends help but bear in mind unless they’ve been through this then they won’t understand.
Kaz21, its been 3 months since I lost my beloved husband and like everyone else on here are not strong too, in fact im broken.
You’ll get through the paperwork, I thought that I couldn’t do it too, but I did, speaking to them on the phone was a different thing, every time I mention his name and telling them that he passed away I just break down crying (I still do)
Today is St David’s Day which is another thing that reminds me of him, as he was a big strong Welsh man and proud of where he came from.
Being on here does help, im not much for advice but I do understand how you feel we all do on here
Kaz I lost my husband two weeks ago. The pain is immense and coping with all the paperwork and even trying to cope with other peoples kindness is so hard. I have so many hours to fill so I have continued with the the to do list we drew up for the year just to keep busy. But there have been days I have done nothing but stare into space and cry. I have learnt to go with whatever I am feeling moment to moment and try to achieve something everyday no matter how small. On bad days that could just be eating a sandwich. sending you hugs I have found the folk on here so supportive and helpful I hope you do to x
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