Hi my husband of 46 years died a week last Saturday he had stage 4 lung cancer but caught pneumonia since then I have been trying to cope with the help of my family who live close by so far my legs feel shaky and I feel exhausted but I was his sole carer for a year my stomach has also been upset is this usual
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I am sorry for your loss ,I am 5 months into the emotional rollercoaster of a journey we are on . My husband died suddenly with no warning.The first 2 months were terrible I couldn’t stop crying, I was in a fog and was physically sick felt ill . What you are experiencing is normal in grief. I still have bad days , and some better days . Every one is different. Try to eat something, and keep hydrated. Try get though your one at a time or even hour by hour. Sending you a hug 
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Hi Supergran, I’m really sorry to hear about your husband. My wife died on Christmas day after suffering with stage 4 bile duct cancer for two years. Even when you know the future is bleak when this happens the world stops and pain rips you apart. I’m glad you have the support of your family. You are one now who needs support now.
Wishing you all the strength you need
Tom
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someone helpfully told me about the physical effects . and yes i had a funny tummy for about a month and still feel very run down. the physical side is something you don’t expect. I tried to eat and sleep as best I could (thank goodness for ready meals). Grief is exhausting.
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I pretty much lived of ready meals , although I was only eating half portions, as I couldn’t stomach anything more . After about 2 months my appetite started to return. There’s still things I can’t eat ,like cake as I used to go out for a coffee and cake with my husband. I have lost a lot of weight. Take Care
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Hi supergran ,I am so sorry for your loss it is a horrendous experience. All the symptoms you are writing about are totally normal. Loss of appetite shaking heart palpitations lack of sleep brain fog etc all part of the grief esp the early days and weeks. Just try to eat a little and often ,just plain toast if can’t stomach meals. Drink fluids as often as possible and just take care of yourself as best you can. The first shock intense physical symptoms will get better over the coming weeks and months . Just go at your own pace until the intense feelings are more manageable. Best wishes .
Hi thank you for your response I am so sorry about your my husbands death was expected but in a way it was better that he went quickly rather than drag on with the cancer I hope now that spring is coming you are getting there and I hope you have family to support you
Thank you for your reply sorry to hear about your wife it must have been hard for you my husband had been diagnosed with mestatic lung cancer a year ago he was getting weaker before getting pneumonia I am trying to eat well and rest I like cooking so have been cooking meals that appeals to me I hope you have family around you
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Hi Belinda thank you for your reply sorry for your loss it was helpful what you said the symptoms most of which I have got I am trying to eat well and rest up I feel my legs are shaky managed to go out for a walk I hope you have family to support you I am lucky my daughter has been great and my sister has been ringing me