So its new years eve and for many of us we will be saying goodbye to the year that changed our lives with the loss of our loved ones. Its just another day yet for me i feel very sad. Its been 11 months since i lost my mum, and today all i want to do is ring her and have a chat. Im wondering if others are feeling the same today?
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Yes, Loubeelou, Iād love to chat with my wife, personally, just one last time. Itās really hard whenever a ā1stā comes up. Thereāll be a lot of 1stās for me in the next 12 months. In the meantime, I talk to her regularly as if sheās still right there. I play back voicemail messages telling me sheās on her way home, but will āpop in to seeā one of our children on the way. Iām lucky to have recordings of her singing in the church choir and reading in the church too, as well as being able to watch the funeral mass. That may not suit everyone, but itās helpful to me.
Lets just hope 2025 is a better year than 2024! M
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It feels worse this year. But I would like to say thank you to everyone for being here for me. When I wasnāt coping well
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@Loubeelou
I too feel very sad. Itās 7 months since I lost my lovely Mum and I donāt know how Iām still standing and functioning but I am. Feel very teary, constantly sad inside yet trying to carry on. I too just want to hug her and talk with her. The grief inside is so painful. Thoughts are with you, when you come onto the community here you know itās not just you thatās going through this. The struggle to carry on continues. x
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Hi Lou , Iām sorry for your loss it doesnāt get easier I think it just gets better over time but the pains always there .
I lost my dad and my brother both to cancer with three months of each other last year 2023 .
It absolutely devastated me and the family
So much my drinking ramped up to cope with it all and recently I got done for drink driving .
When I got home the next day I got pissed and went to bed and we found my mum in the back garden sheād been there for 40 minutes
They are sure she had a mini stroke and sheās still in hospital really poorly sheās made a little progress but still not well.
Iām just hoping she will pull through.
My sister hates me now and Iām just trying to cope and be a better person for mum .
I havenāt had a drink since it all happened and am just trying to get my life back together.
Sorry for the storytelling I just wanted someone to talk to x
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Thank you for sharing ant. You really have been through such a terrible time. We all cope, or dont cope in different ways. I hope your mum starts to improve with time. Sending you a hug
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I too have found this site amazing. Just helps to know other people can relate
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Ant1970, so sorry to hear such sad news. If itās any consolation I had a mini stroke (TIA) on the day of the Kingās Coronation. Iām now fully recovered, driving again and living a normal life. Iām on here as I lost my wife last month, but I am proof that you can overcome a TIA. I hope your mum gets through hers as well.
Best wishes M
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This is my first Christmas & New Year without Pete, since 1972. I spent Christmas day at my daughters with her husband & grandchildren,26yrs&17yrd old. They were all wonderful,but wasnāt the same without Pete. Tonight I am staying home, with Opie my house cat,& my memories of happier times. Tomorrow I will spend the day at my daughterās.
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Thank you for your kind words 
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I am so sorry for your loss, i lost my only sibling my brother Feb 2023,nothing is the same anymore. I feel like I am getting worse, some people cope better than others i think. I not one of them. Sending you very best wishes, we will keep going as best we can. This is a wonderful supportive group
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Hello loubeelou so itās new years eve and just many of us we will be saying goodbye to the year that did charged our lives with the loss of our loved one and yes itās just another day for you to feel very sad itās has been 11. Months since you lost your mum and so you went to ring her to have a chat yes do people feeling the same just have to say l loss my brother April 30th last year want to. Say if you would like to chat with me. You can will try to be there for you
Ant1970 just say if you need some help l would like to have chat with you hoping your mum will pull through so just remember will be thinking of you and will be here for you
Hello loubeelou so you lost your lovely mum 7 months ago so you still functioning and standing but you feeling very teary so you are constantly sad inside yes you are trying to carry on but you would like to give her a hug and talk to her and the grief is painful in inside my thoughts are with you and welcome to the community and we are here for you. Just you are going through this. And just saying that I am going through this l loss my brother on April last year so l know how hard it is my heart is breaking in pieces just take it one day at time so if you want to get in touch with me just sent me a message