Hello All
I’m Kate and I live in Bath, Somerset. My husband died on 11th August. He’d had heart problems for a while, but the consultants said they weren’t serious enough to operate (he needed a replacement valve), so it was a shock when he died suddenly on the way back from the shop.
I’m all over the place at the moment - on the surface I’m coping, but it all seems a bit pointless without David to share it with.
I’m also disabled and at the moment in a lot of pain from a hip op that went a bit wrong.
Apart from all that, I’m fine! And capable of being cheerful when I need to be.
Looking forward to ‘meeting’ you all.
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Hello @Kateandthecat,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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So sorry that you are now part of this club Kate. The shock of the sudden passing only adds to the devastation you must feel. My husband also had heart problems for years but it was a real shock when he died suddenly whilst returning from watching football. Be kind to yourself is really the only advice i can give. I find it is a real roller-coaster of emotions.
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@Easter Thank you. It’s not a club I wanted to have to be part of, but it looks like a really friendly supportive community.
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So sorry for your loss Kate
My husband Roger passed away on 23 September 2024. He had 2 different cancers and he passed suddenly having started chemotherapy. I miss him so much. Life doesn’t feel like it’s worth living without him
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My heart goes out to you. xx
I can only hope it gets at least a little bit more bearable with time.
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Hi Kate. So very sorry you’ve had to join this club but we are a friendly bunch as we know what each other is going through.
It’s not long since you lost your husband and it’s tough. I lost my John suddenly in March this year and those first few months were the worst time of my life.
I thought I was a strong woman but I was a wreck. My brain couldn’t function and my thoughts were everywhere not making sense. I didn’t want to be here even though I have a fabulous family and good friends but gradually and with the help of a mild anti depressant I’m coping better.
The tablet doesn’t take the pain away at all but helps me put things in perspective as I really thought I was going mad. Coming on here helps such a lot as well,
Buying my rescue cat has been the best thing. He’s given me a purpose to get up and look after him and make sure he’s very spoilt…
I still put my mask on at times and others it slips and the tsunami of tears start but it’s getting easier.
It will never go away completely and that would seem as though I’d forgotten John and that I will never do.
I really feel you meet just one magical person in your life and John was mine.
Keep posting Kate, it will help you through this…
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Good morning Kate. So sorry for your loss.
Sadly, we all have experienced this heartbreaking devastating experience. 
You need to look after yourself as much as can, in the meantime join in as much as you can
I know what you mean about the cat - mine’s a little gremlin, but she’s so helped me through. And yes, she’s very spoilt!
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Thank you John.
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Hi katieandthecat
Nice to meet you. You are in the right place for love and support. It’s helped me. But I keep dragging myself back down with overthinking of things. But I’m bk now. Blessings to you.
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Thank you all for the lovely welcome.
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