My husband and I celebrated 50 years together in April, he was fairly well then, we had a wonderful celebration. He started feeling unwell at the end of May, diagnosed with Interstitial Lung Disease, not treated early enough and was admitted to hospital on 12th August where he died just 6 days later. I am a strong person, just keep going but I feel overwhelmed at times. I miss him so much, try not to think about things but it’s hard.
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Hello @Clarewa53.
I am truly sorry for your loss. You have come to the right place to gain some comfort and understanding. Sadly there are far too many of us who have lost a special person.
It’s still very early days for you and I would say don’t try to fight your grief. Of course you miss him. I think when we’re feeling overwhelmed then we must attend to it and do whatever we need to do; whether that is to push through by distraction, going for a walk, or just sitting and sobbing, which is allowed; there are no rules to follow in grief. Crying is a good release. 5 years on for me and I still occasionally get engulfed by that wave but I have learned how to handle it. You will too in time.
Take care Clare and don’t expect too much of yourself.
Sending hugs. x
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My husband passed away on 01.10.22. He was also newly diagnosed with ild. We thought that there was a solid chance we were going to be OK, he was on steriods and oxygen and was going to be put forward for the lung transplant list, but it all went down hill.so quickly , he took poorly an the Thursday evening and by Saturday morning I was his widow.
I felt a veil of calm come over me at that moment of him passing and I’ve been like it ever since, but it feels dream like as if one morning I’m going to wake up and it will have all been a dream and he will be there at the side of me, I keep pinching myself to make sure I’m not dreaming,
His funeral was the same ,I felt calm like I’d floated down the room behind him ,sat with our youngest son and watched as he sobbed for his dad, I was sure that i would wake up at that point .
I don’t know what’s going on with me I’m going through all the motions of sorting things out and getting our affairs and finances in order, but at the same time it feels un real.
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Hayley
My husband died 18th August and he was only 64 fit but he had smoked for 40 years. He dropped down dead at work. I’m still in that almost dream stage I really don’t think it’s hit me yet. I’m still sorting his affairs out and running on auto pilot. My son we only have 1 boy. Is understandably absolutely devastated. If I can help in anyway. Please let me know.
Jude
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Thank you, I am so sorry to hear about your husband, it’s pretty devastating when it happens so suddenly. I really still think it hasn’t fully hit me yet, I am on auto pilot, keeping busy etc. Being on my own in the house is very hard
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Ditto on that it’s taken me 8 weeks to stay on my own I’m 3 nights in. It’s been OK but I get through by thinking he’s at work or watching TV in the other room or gone to bed early. The hardest bit is getting in the bed alone every night even though the last night I saw him I left him sleeping on the couch. It’s very strange. The hardest for me is being in our office trying to wind our business up. That’s very hard and seems so final. Xx
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