No family

Losing a partner
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Hi Flowergarden
I am totally alone, I have to put tv on for company.
How do you cope
Thanks for your reply

Junie x

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Hi all,
I was doing ok but cried the entire weekend and struggling too.
I don’t have the answer to how to get through Christmas im afraid.Hour by hour i guess.
I did the zoom with Karen on Sunday and that helped seeing others from here in the same boat.
It is so incredibly intense this pain of losing your other half & its hard for others whove not experienced it to comprehend.

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Thanks for your reply Jane

Hugs
Junie

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I only just manage to cope. I put the radio on when I get up. I do jigsaw puzzles to distract me. I am not motivated to do anything else. I get cross with myself for not coping and feeling so lonley. I sometimes go to a local cafe to meet people but it is hard with no family for support so I sympathse with anyone living alone, especially without a family or close friends.

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I have adult children and I couldn’t feel more lonely. I feel I am invisible. They don’t consider me.

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Hi Flowergarden
I am the same , I go to a coffee shop, and see couples and families and Christmas Cheer, I am happy for them, but it makes me feel more lonely.
Not sure how to get through Christmas,
Just want someone to chat to or have a coffee with.
Thanks for your reply
Hugs
Junie

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Today has been brutal, quite possibly the hardest since I lost D on 3rd Nov.
Various reasons, principal amongst which is first trip in the motorhome without her. We had been talking about our first trip without our little Jack Russell who passed just 6 weeks before D; it’s me flying solo now.
I’ve been trying to hang back from posting: we all have our stories to tell and grief to bear, and I’m s hell of a lot luckier than many.
Just needed to pour that out today.
My best wishes to each of you as you negotiate the coming 2 weeks

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@Richard67
Bugger, I remember you mentioning the motorhome. Of course it was going to be difficult. I hope you can carry on with; it’s was always going to be that first time that was / is brutal

Go well Richard, you’ll be ok.

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Well done @ Richard67 in followed through with your plans.Even though it was brutal you did it.

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Hi @Richard67 Congrats on taking the van out, especially as your loss is so recent, it is 10 months since I lost my wife, who also is a “D” I have just watched the van get greener ( van owners understand this) I just can’t bring myself to take it out, I have considered - fleetingly whether to sell but it was my wife who made the decision to buy it and she loved it, problem now is it’s MOT has run out! I am hoping the time will be right one day but well done you.

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Sorry to hear that. I totally get the ‘green’ thing.

I really hope you find a way forward with it, whether that be to sell or to continue to use. You may already know about it but there is a Facebook group called Mad Widows and Widowers with Motorhomes Group Europe. If you haven’t seen it, it might be worth a look.

Best wishes