No motivation to do anything and just sitting doing nothing again. Feel like I’m back at the beginning of the nightmare 
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Hi Judy
I feel the same most of the day……days seem pointless ……and housework not worth doing…….it’s an effort to get dressed in the morning …I think I need a good kick up the ass…….
My work day is Saturday……the only day when I motivate myself and go off and do a job I love….one day when for a whole 7 hours my other half isn’t constantly in my head…….but oh how it hits me coming home to a house without him in it……
The thought of this for the next part of my life is unbearable…….life is pretty unbearable without him in it. I know I’m not alone thinking like this……how does everyone else cope? I try so hard to keep myself together but I feel like I’m unraveling………unless of course, I’m just going completely nuts! Now there’s a thought……
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Lisaj2019 I’m the same getting up is hard work and not sleeping half the night and do you have support around you. I get up every day and say to myself i will make a effort to do more around the house and then i just sit there doing nothing again. I’m glad you have your job to go to and that helps a bit x
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I was persuaded to go to a flower arranging class today, something I would never have done. It was really fun and for a few hours I escaped from my grief. I have decided to do a Christmas wreath one in December so I can put it in my husbands grave, he loved “homemade” things .
I have also got a book of suduko which is driving me mad. Maybe try something new if you can. Just an idea I wanted to share as it has really brightened up my day today x
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Yes, I got kind of pressed into a Tai Chi class. Not my sort of thing at all, but I went anyway. I really enjoy it! I felt a bit daft the first time, but most of the others were ladies, and it turned out that a lot of them were widows. We go to the pub for a drink afterwards, mine’s an orange juice because I drive home afterwards.
Anything new is worth a try.
Xx
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willowI have mobility problems but I started going to a chair yoga class in January . I am the youngest there by 20 years and they all treat me like their daughter. We go for coffee afterwards and I love all their conversations. It helps to forget about things for a while. They sent me a lovely card when my husband died. I have developed a new routine , doing something each day including helping with childcare of my grandchildren, volunteering and yoga, plus one day planning nothing where I challenge myself to go somewhere on my own like a cafe or garden centre. Not a wild life but I’m doing ok! X
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Hi Judy10
So sorry you’re not sleeping….that must make everything a lot harder……and adds to your feeling you can’t do anything……
I’m lucky I do have support with a family that live about an hour away…but it’s just this feeling of…is this what my life is from now on, being in this house alone without my other half being here, all seems pointless to me. I know I need to pull myself together…I have a beautiful daughter within an hours distance …I have a son and grandchildren in the US…….but I feel totally alone without him……half of me is missing.
I’m lucky I have a job I love….and when I get there I’m fine but for the day before I have a small panic attack….my head is a shed and I feel like I can’t remember what I have to do when I get there!
I feel for you Judy……it’s a devastating loss we are going through…….and I’m sure we will never be the same………
Hi Lisaj19 hope your doing ok as can be and again i was awake at 4.00 this morning and couldn’t go back to sleep and then I’m to tired to do anything and i have my son who lives at home but he has his own struggles and my daughters are here in the week and some of the weekend. But night time is hard and our life will never be the same again 
I’m glad you have family but it’s not the same without my husband here and feel so lost and lonely 
sending hugs to you 
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