I think she needs the company because her Mum is elderly and poorly and is bedbound most of the time.I went food shopping with her last night and I’m hoping she’s not expecting me to eat all that!She is such a kind person and it was great to offer.I will go and enjoy myself but maybe just stay for a few hours.She will understand.x
Jill,
You don’t need to stay for too long. It will break up the day for you and you may even enjoy it. It sounds like she is very much looking forward to having you so you probably will need to go, but just make it clear you arent up to socialising for long.
Cheryl x
Yes,that’s what I’ll do,just stay for a few hours then say that I have to feed the cats.I don’t like leaving them for too long.They need me as much as I need them.Thanks Jill x
Jill, I am so pleased that this kind lady has asked you to her house for Christmas day. I think that perhaps she want’s your company as much as you probably want hers so I would be absolutely honest with her and explain just how you feel. Don’t make excuses just tell it how it is. I’m sure that she will understand. If you suddenly rush off with the excuse of the cats needing you it might seem as if you are avoiding her and not enjoying her company and a friendship could be lost. You never know you might well have a good day and pleased that you managed to go to her house and enjoy her company.
Don’t worry it will work out I am sure. Good luck
Pat xxxx
Hi,Pat.I am going with an open mind.I really appreciate what she’s doing.At least it will just be 3 of us and I can cope with that. X
Hi Jill, then I would say let her know that her kindness is appreciated. Not one of my neighbours knocked on my door last Christmas and for all they knew I was going to spend last Christmas alone just weeks after losing Brian. Fortunately I had family that took no notice of my request to spend Christmas day alone. They came and picked me up and I spent a nice few hours (all I could manage) with them, although it was a blur. I hope you have a nice day and let us know how you got on.
Pat xxx
I will Pat.I’m feeling very low today.I don’t know why.Things have been OK for a while now then suddenly I break down.It sounds silly but I try not to cry in front of the cats,I go in the bedroom but they know.They both looked at me when I came back in the lounge.They are the best friends anyone could have.
Not silly at all, our beloved animals can pick up on our moods. My dog Beepa comes and puts her head on my lap and stares into my eyes. She makes me feel so guilty for crying in front of her. She chatters her teeth when she is stressed and this has only started since Brian died. So I find myself massaging her head and neck to calm her.
Hi all, thought I was doing well since losing Vic in October. Have managed to keep myself busy most days and this has helped. Yesterday and today have been bad though. What was the shortest day of the year just dragged and dragged. I have my three daughters and two of their partners coming for Christmas and I am looking forward to them all being here .One daughter should have arrived Friday evening and was upset to find this week that she has to work tomorrow and could not come as planned. Another daughter was due this evening and when I messaged her tonight she said she thought she had told me she was coming in the morning. I feel so guilty for being disappointed but to be honest the thought of company from tonight had kept me going through a crappy lonely weekend.
I am beginning to think that all these weeks, while I thought I was coping well. I was just in shock and that now the reality is hitting home.