I lost my Wife, Soul mate and best Friend to Cancer on the 3rd of June last month.

On the day of lockdown Margaret was diagnosed with cancer.

We thought we would spend the rest of our life’s together once we had retired; we had bucket list we wanted to do and places we wanted to see during our retirement.

Now after Mag’s has passed, my life is shit and I am lost, lonely and angry because there so many scum bags out there that deserve cancer and my beautiful who loved the world gets it.

I can’t sleep or eat or think straight because I miss her so much.

I wanted to kill myself last week, and then I Knew that Mags would be angry with me, but NO WIFE NO LIFE!


I know how you feel. I lost my gorgeous fantastic wife sue to pancreatic cancer on the 1st February this year. I feel so lost and alone without sue .please ask for help .my daughter and stepson dave family realised i was going down and got me to ring doctors and they sorted out counselling.i keep telling myself that sue wouldn’t want me to do anything stupid .tags there is nothing to be ashamed of asking for help


I lost my wife on 17th April after 45 years together. I’ve been fortunate in having a few staunch family and friends who’ve kept me from the abyss. I also find here useful. As @Martyn2 says, please give your GP surgery a call. They will offer help. And reach out here. there’s always someone about. My deepest condolences and best wishes to you.


Hi Tags,

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your wife. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are feeling really overwhelmed about things at the moment.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.
  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here:

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,

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Guys, I really appreciate your advice and help.

I have been to see the GP and was given sleeping pills and diazepam and a contact support group Cruse,

They won’t supply me with any counselling until after 6 months.

Alex, thank you for your advice and the video, unfortunately, the Sue Ryder online bereavement counselling service won’t entertain me until I have suffered all the emotions, shock and grieving on my own for 2 months, anything else open for me now!

All, I know for a fact that you understand and feel my pain, lose and grief, people who haven’t experienced a loss of a partner have no idea about bereavement.

Being lonely every moment of the day and with nothing in sight and no future ahead, my constant overwhelming loss and heartbreak and crying all the time.

I have been experiencing massive emotional and mental confusion and I need help, any other advice would be amazing.


keep talking. talk to the community on here. Talk to anyone else who’ll listen. talk to the Samaritans if it’s really too much but don’t give up. we just can’t. we all have to support each other. you’ve made an amazing leap by reaching out. We’re all here.

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You need to go back to the gp and say you not coping with it all.cruse are absolutely useless when i rang for help the woman on the phone was abrupt and in the end i put the phone down.ask about social prescribing .also look at andys man club it can be a big help

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Samaritans are helpful. No waiting. You just email them as much as you want. And call. They write back very fast. I am sorry. Loss leaves such an abyss.

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