Not coping from death of a wonderful wife

Coping with bereavement
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My beautiful and wonderful wife, married for nearly 64 fantastic years died very suddenly in hospital where doctors couldn’t find anything wrong with her in the first 12 hours. I wasn’t told how serious her illness was, I wasn’t told that my wife might die.
I am not coping with my wife passing away, I cry every night when I go to bed because I miss her companionship sleeping with her after all these years. Every time I am alone I cry because I miss her so much.
Sometimes I say, I don’t won’t to carry on I just want to be with my wife again, and it’s getting worse everyday.

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I am so sorry for your loss. I find talking to my husband every night comforts me. I can see his face and hear his voice and it helps calm me. What an amazing long partnership you had. I’m sure she would be very proud of you right now

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Hi @Br1an3 I’m so sorry that your wife has died. The suddeness of it all must have been very traumatic for you and after being together for so long. I understand that you want to join your wife. I used to and still do at times feel the same. It’s very hard but we have to keep going. It’s still very early for you and it will take time for those feelings to subside. Keep talking on here and get those feelings out. Sending you a big hug.

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Hi @Br1an3,

I’m so sorry for the death of your wife. It sounds like it was such a shock for you and how you’re feeling is completely understandable.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Br1an3, get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,
Seaneen