Not coping

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Hi all
Since may of this year I’ve not been coping to well
I’ve been going through hell with a job I live. My employer local council I work for had several complaints regarding my conduct which none of them are true. My job is as a traffic warden and the public do nothing but lie to get me the sack. It’s disgusting and I’m only doing my job I am so fed up of the investigation by my employer for months I’ve been going through a process I Wouid describe as cruel and uncalled for. I get lots of mental and sometimes physical abuse directed at me for booking cars that is part of my job and these people don’t know if I have kids and a mortgage but to try get me the sack Wouid hurt those in my life. How do these people sleep at night. It’s their own fault for parking where they shouldn’t it’s not my responsibility you chose to park there and in so doing break civil law.
These last few months I have been feeling sick to the stomach fearing the worst of losing my job that I love. I’m even feeling suicidal my mood is low. I’ve got enough as it is my daughter is waiting to find out if she’s got throat cancer and she’s been diagnosed with level 2 autism and she’s mild to moderate disabled with cerebral palsy and I have disabled father 81 years old and nine years ago nearly I lost my mum so all this and what I’m going through is making everything 100 times worse. I just want to cry and not be here no more

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Hi @Steven,

I’m so sorry to hear that you feel like you have not been coping well.

It sounds like there is so much going on in your life - it’s completely okay to feel overwhelmed by all these things. You are dealing with a lot and it’s understandable that sometimes it gets too much.

We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

I want to reassure you that you’re never alone - there’s always someone out there to support you.

If you feel like you’re in crisis and need some extra support outside of the community, I would encourage you to reach out to one of these organisations below who can help.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline here.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

Please know that the community is always here for you.

Take care,
Alex

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Sorry I don’t go to counsellors I don’t value things like counselling thanks anyway