I lost my husband seven days ago. I feel utterly lost, panic-stricken, sick, frozen, like I’m dying. My husband was my rock and now he is gone. How am I going to get out of this?
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I lost my partner 7 days ago too I can’t cope it’s the worst feeling ever I just want him to come back, I feel so sad and heartbroken 
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I’m so sorry. I understand the pain you are going through. Sending comfort x
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I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s horrible I feel so alone 
I feel like I will never get through this xx
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I sorry for your loss , and you’re on a grief journey none of us wanted to be on . It is early days for you . You will be in a fog or daze , take one day at a time . Try to eat even it’s only toast , make sure you stay hydrated. I hope you have family support.
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@Isla7 @Lex1 I am not yet two months in to losing my lovely Paul and this site has been a lifeline. I genuinely can’t even remember some days in the first few weeks. It is still incredibly tough but in different ways. Some thoughts that might help or might now.
I was thankful to friends and family I could cry in front of without fixing or judgement. I am grateful to people I know who have been through similar which I have come to know more and more sadly and losing a partner has lots of universal feelings even though we are all different. The practical and financial seems overwhelming at times - none of us ever want to do that stuff at the best of times let alone when we are grieving and devastated. Do a bit in the morning and shelve it. You will do odd things. I cleared the bathroom of Paul’s things early but can’t get rid of other stuff and went out and bought a new sofa! whatever works. Most days I went out a bit and got washed and dressed but some days |I didn’t and stayed at home to cry and process things.
You will ride the waves of grief and some days you will feel OK. People will see you as coping but tell them that sometimes you are not.
I was a mess in the first days. We all were. I have found strength here amongst friends. I hope you feel able to chat on here. We are listening Nikki x
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Bless you. Last night I couldn’t cope. This community saved me. Sending comfort to anyone that needs it. Thank you 
xx
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Isla, I’m so sorry you are going through the horrific pain of losing the one you love. The first month or is so difficult that just surviving is hard enough. I hope you have family to look after you and take some of the weight off. It’s important to ask for help and talking through things helps too. I hope you find all the strength and help you need
Tom
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