Its almost 6 months since mum went and i still feel so lost and alone. I have a loving family but i cant tell them how i feel as some of my wider family tell me to get over it ! This make me feel worse.
I cry everyday when im going to work as i dont have anyone to talk to. I start counselling soon so hopeing this will help.
Somedays i just dont want to get up and face the world without mum.
Sorry to put this on here but i have no one to talk to.
Xx
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Hello @Claire23, I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum. Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m sure other members of our community will relate to your experiences - unfortunately, sometimes people don’t get the support they need from their family or friends. Our Grief Kind campaign has lots of resources to help people support someone who is grieving - maybe you could share it with them if you felt comfortable doing so.
The community is here for you, and it’s good to hear you are starting counselling too - it sounds like things are very tough for you right now and I hope it helps you.
I’m just giving this thread a gentle bump for you - hopefully someone will be along to offer their support.
Take good care,
Seaneen
Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my Mum in 2020. She was my best friend and I miss her tremendously. I too feel like you, I have siblings but I feel they don’t understand me so I just keep quiet. My kids are good though as they still talk about their Nanny and this really helps me. I’m going to my Doctor to ask for counselling too as I feel it’s very much needed. You definetly need to talk about your Mum and how you feel, even if it’s on here. It’s flipping hard, I know xxx
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I am in the same boat I lost my mum almost 6 months ago now and it seems to get harder as the days pass and they say it gets easier in time? I beg to differ!
What helps me is writing to my mum about my thoughts, feelings or to tell her about my day. I also read a lot of books about the afterlife which provides me with some comfort.
I understand how you feel about being on your own with your feelings as I to seem to get the same treatment.
I am only a message away, please don’t feel alone and never apologise for what ever you say on here, that’s exactly what this site is intended for x
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I am also now 6 months on, feel like I am struggling more than ever. Stopped my counselling as it wasn’t helping. Bank holiday weekend & we would have been out today, I have spent the day on my own, just like yesterday & tomorrow, I have not spoken or seen anyone.
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I am three months on from losing mum. Although the pain is not as ‘raw’, I still think about her all day long. Nothing is the same for me here at home on my own. I remember a few years ago, I would go away to see my partner at a weekend and mum would say “oh, I’ll be here on my own then, no-one to see or talk to”. Bless her. I know how it feels now. Sometimes I feel angry for everything I did, looking after her for so long, and now I am suffering like this, but I’m sure we all feel that way. My grief comes in waves. Last night when I got in bed I had a very short meltdown and then it passes. I try to keep very busy during the day, and try not to get myself down by waking up thinking “oh, another day without mum”, because I know it doesn’t help. I’m sure she is around and guiding me. I do talk to her throughout the day when I’m here at home where she lived for 50 years. I’ve been reading a lot of books on grief too; anything to help us I will try. xx
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Being on your own and having time off from working makes things worse because your mind has got time to wonder. I work in a school so I’ve had most of the Summer off doing nothing but thinking. I would have been with Mum every day if she was still here. Being able to write on here has helped me lots today.
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You are right, the weekends are crippling. I want my mum back, I still cannot comprehend that on the Monday she was drinking a glass of wine in the hot tub, on Tuesday she was gone.
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Oh I am so sorry for you, that must have been so hard. We’re all here to vent to, hopefully it’ll help you to talk about her and how you feel.
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I’m only 5 and a half weeks into this horrible journey of losing my Dad … I feel worse than I did . Funeral Is Tuesday … I am in so much pain .
I’m sorry for your loss x
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It’s not fair is it. Not having the chance to say everything I would have wanted to say. Tell her I loved her one last time.
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