One of my friends (happily married for many years) told me that someone warned her that she should bear in mind that widowed women (me) could be a bit dangerous to other people’s husbands! I have never met or seen this person. It made me laugh that anyone could imagine that a recently bereaved woman would be a danger to men. As if the only thing we are missing is a furtive grope.
I feel like invading their knit and natter group dressed in a red and black basque and preying on their husbands when they come to collect them. I would do it, just for a laugh, but I look like such an old bag these days, I think I would just get looks of sympathy from their husbands. Silly bloody woman. Xx
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Lol i would love to see that, what are people like what makes them think we would be even interested in there partners. Xxc
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Have you ever noticed in television programmes how often widowed people fall into bed after a funeral?
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Yep i have but i wouldn’t couldn’t i miss Gra with every heart beat he was my world. I would love some friends but no funny business. I live alone dont have any close friends. Gamily are useless i sit here ms y hrs alonr. Nights sre so lony. Xxx
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Yes, it’s a lonely life. I can’t go out in the evening or at weekends, and that is when most social events and classes are held. We were together 24/7, not needing anyone else. We were just happy to be together. I have never been on my own. I met my first husband when I was 16. Until I married him I shared a bedroom with my sister. When he died I was 48 and still had my son at home. Five years later I married Jeremy. Now he has gone too. I still have my daughter to care for.
Life sucks. I hope it gets better for everyone on this journey. Xx
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I don’t know about you ladies, but I can barely brush my hair some days, never mind set about seducing every man I see!! How stupid! In my experience single woman are looked at as a threat, but I don’t see myself as single, this is different, I don’t have Chris anymore, but I don’t want anyone else either, maybe in time that will change…I miss company though, my 4 children are all adults with Thier own lives, I’d like someone to just talk to, go for a coffee with, that kinda thing…
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Like yourself i have never been alone before moved out of my mums after sharing a bedroom with my 2 sisters. Then i lost my first husband to a dvt in 2005. I.net Gra in a chat room on aol. We quickly clicked in the January off 2006. He stayed st s guest hosue for 2 days, he moved up here to lived with me from Oxford, i would love company of friends but i dont have any due to my agrophobia. Life is very lonely. Xxx
Likewise Elkira, why do ppl assume you will jump on there man. I am lonely looking for friends not another relationship its way to early 7 weeks as yesterday. Xxx
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And when you see their men, wow, no thanks! As if.
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Precisely not everyones taste in partners are the same. Who is right for one person is defiently nit right for someone else. Xxx
Oh Willow, you do make me laugh! Maybe we should all dress in basques and call ourselves the Black Widows. With motorbikes. We could congregate outside church jumble sales and kidnap the men as they came out.
Could we congregate outside Liberty’s or at least Waitrose? If we are going to seduce someone they might as well be well-dressed.
Not that I am, I buy loads from charity shops. But I might draw the line at a “Pre-loved” basque. I will definitely need a brand new basque, maybe B& M or Home Bargains sell them.
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Now i need pictures of you and anyone else who turns up. Unfortunately i wont be there so any egible good looking men send my way please lol xxx
I was 36 when my first partner died suddenly. Same thing. I had no interest in another man in my life, but my social circle became very protective of their men. Not sure why. I couldn’t flirt my way out of a paper bag for heavens sake let alone play the seductress. And so the circle shrunk as the inconvenient singleton was just that. Inconvenient. Or the most ridiculous statement from one of them was if something happened to her, I could have her husband. Are you kidding me? 27 years later, am walking the same darn godawful path again. The only upside is that having been this route before, I know that it gets easier with time. The basque reference is intriguing. (I’m assuming it’s a corset like garmet?)
Morning iamposygirl yes a basque is a corset type thing. I wonder how many women and men go through the same thing when they lose someone and so xalled friends believe your after there partner. Its as if they think our own partners stood for nothing. Xxx
Are basques even a thing these days lol
I couldn’t seduce anyone, love my Bridget Jones pants and my comfy leggings too much 
even the thought of snogging another man makes me want to run for the hills! My friends husbands would be great extra’s in Lord of the Rings so definitely a no no from me lol
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