They say time is a great healer but i dont feel like its doing me any good . My 21year old son passed away on march1st this year . As time is passing it really does feel like its getting harder ,i cant keep up with anything and i just feel lost inside my own head … does it get easier ?
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Hello, I’m so sorry to hear about your terrible loss.
I lost my wife 3 months ago and also feel like the pain and sadness is getting worse. I have read that grief can change a lot after the first few months when the shock begins to wear off and the realities of life without your loved one begins to sink in. This is certainly happening to me. I suppose we all must just hang in there through these difficult times and hope to goodness it becomes more bearable.
Best wishes
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Hello @Lost1986, my daughter was also 21 and it’s almost 2years since she left. I wish I could say it gets better but this pain is for life. I think the first year you live in a kind of mania, your whole world is shattered and you’re scrambling to make sense of it, nothing that once was exists now.
But how you feel now will not be how you feel forever. Without realising it, over time you begin to live a different life. The pain and loss is always there but we learn to carry it and not fight against it.
There are still so many things I cannot do, I desperately want to be able look at my daughters photos, listen to her singing (she was a singer/songwriter), celebrate her birthday, enjoy the memories and relive the good times but it’s all too painful and I can only feel the loss and anguish. Maybe one day but not today.
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, we walk a very lonely path when we lose a child, just know everything you feel is normal and valid.
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