I lost my dad last year to lung cancer , and now my mum has breast cancer.. yes mum isn’t terminal, her operation is next week, but she hasn’t been coping since her diagnosis, and things have been extremely difficult and it’s like there is a big wedge between us since dad has gone . I haven’t been able to properly reach out to mum since dad because of obvious reasons and I just carried on with life , and now I feel like I’m falling apart a bit and not sure how to deal with things ..
1 Like
Hi @Lauren11,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad and your mum’s diagnosis. It sounds like things are really difficult for you right now. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
-
Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
-
Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
-
Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care and keep reaching out 
Alex
I am so sorry to hear about such tragic news. Its obvious you and your mother are under tremendous pressure. Its easy to say but speak from experience. As the caregiver, remaining calm for your mum and minimising anxiety is important as the cortisol that is generated can impact on the efficacy of the treatments of cancers. Its monumentally stressful and not everyone says or does the right thing, I got it wrong on many occasions, emotional and panicky when you need to be grounded and calm. Keep telling the community how you feel and there is always someone willing to listen and advise. Take care
1 Like