I feel for you M I lost my wife November 2nd 2019. I now live on my own with only a cat 
to talk to. Everything in the house has not been shifted or moved, itās just how she left it. I now sheās not with me but I talk to her and it makes me feel betterā¦yes with tears, accepting her loss will never go 
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Hi @maxdad7845
Iām glad youāve joined us although Iām sorry you need to.
This is such a sad journey we are all on here but understanding and support might help help so I hope you stay.
Best wishes to you.
Hello Mary0,
I really understand how you must be feeling.I lost my partner of 39years nine weeks ago.He had been fit and well except for the odd cold.He went into the kitchen and collapsed and died.
Iām still in a state of shock and disbelief.
I try to fill.my days but my grief is also unbearable.Iām thinking of you and anyone who has to tread this lonely path.x
Dear Pushkin,
I am so sorry for your loss.
The shock and pain must be too hard to bearā¦
Thinking of youā¦ So many of us on here will identify with the terrifying emotional rollercoasterā¦
Arms around youā¦.x
I am really sorry to hear about your loss. It never feels quite real. I found myself talking to her again today and just to get a single answer would mean everything. I also found myself questioning if our lives together had actually happened, things are so messed up these days. I try to remember some of the things she used to say and do. She knew me better than I knew myself. Now, things seem a bit pointless.
Hi Beetango,
Terrifying it most certainly is.I feel like a child that had a nightmare but there is no waking up from this.x
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Thank you Pushkin. I am thinking of you too and trying to believe that we will learn to live with the grief. I hope you will believe this too.
I certainly hope so,Mary0, it is hard to imagine that we will get to a point in our lives that we feel able to lead a ānormalā life again.It will take time but I believe grief becom rd a much smaller part in our lives as time goes by.
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Most people who have been through this do say that it takes a long time but that they have got there. That must help us to take heart I think x
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Yes it does,when time passes we donāt realise that we are changing our daily lives.It is such a slow and steady progress that hardly notice.
It is like a small child that has to crawl before it can walk.Then it has to walk before it can run.
Grief is a gradual process and as time passes we adapt as we go alongā¦it takes time and is not a process that can be rushed.xx
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