Its making me more upset hearing everyone else’s situations. I can relate to them all. Its heart wrenching! I lost my husband 3rd June.
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@Hopeful1 I’m sorry for your loss. It is really early days for you.
I have found this site a lifesaver since I lost my partner unexpectedly 21 weeks ago today.
It is heart wrenching to know there are so many of us in the same situation but I find reading how others further along this awful path have coped gives me hope. I hope you can find that too. X
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Hi @Hopeful1, very sorry to hear of your loss. I guess it can be overwhelming reading about everyone elses loss whilst your own is so recent and raw. Like @Doughtyj says, this site has helped so many people and hopefully you will feel supported here on your new journey through grief. I lost my partner 5 months ago and this site has helped me move forward and I have learnt a lot about grief and friendship. Best wishes, I hope you feel able to stick around and feel supported here.
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I understand how you feel. I feel the same.
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@Hopeful1
I felt the same, I even came off here at one point. It can be soul destroying to be in such raw grief and then read posts of people still struggling several weeks, months and years later. I found it hard but I have also found it to be the best thing I did. I am able to support people on here and I get support from others who are travelling ahead of me.
Just like @Doughtyj I lost my partner 21 weeks ago today. The struggle is real, the pain is real but it becomes less all consuming.
I never thought I would get to this point but I have. I’ve learnt that I’m stronger than I ever thought possible. I took small steps, hour by hour. You too will get through each day, week, month.
As @JustSomeBloke said about grief and friendship, I have made friends here too @JustSomeBloke and @Doughtyj are two of many people I now class as friends, linked together by death, that only we all can understand.
Please stay, you can control what you read, as I was once told by another good friend. You can get support and support others that will inevitably come on here behind you.
Ali
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Aw thanks @Ali29 
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Thanks @Ali29. I class you and @JustSomeBloke as friends too 
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Thanks @Doughtyj
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Hello everyone, I understand too.
I didn’t find it till 8 months in. Not sure I’d of coped with it before then.
I do find lots of comfort, but also agree that there are times when a break from it is needed. It can all become too overwhelming sometimes.
Hugs to you all 
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I feel exactly same as yourself my husband passed on 8th June 2023 and due as yet due to suddend death at home aged 63 I still have to arrange funeral. Visit from funeral director next week. I cant believe that he is gone and the tears and heartbreak seem like they will be with me forever. When you spend over 37 years with someone you love and adore doing all things together when you are left alone the world seems a different place.
I have a great grandson who is just 1 year old and my husband who worshiped him did not get to see his burthday 20th June.
I can only do my best to celebrate his birthday in June and remember my husband on his passing with special memories and thoughts.
I know everyday is different but i wish he was still here. Take care x
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I didn’t really know what to expect when I first joined this site. When your head is so mixed up you just want to reach out to someone.
Reading others experiences & stories I felt I was “soaking up” others grief which was not helpful, in fact the opposite for me. Doubting whether I was or wasn’t grieving enough etc - but realised I had to do it my way.
We’ve all got a story to tell but agree often reading others can be overwhelming.
A good piece of advice I was given was not to left others dictate - do what feels right for you.
G. X
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Thank you,
Most of the time it’s okay, and really, really positive. And I love it when I write things that others can resonate with.
Just occasionally , recently I’ve thought that I needed not to be so attached to it.
Much love and hugs to everyone on here . You do all really help me
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Sorry for your loss and being so early days you will be so overwhelmed. I can only agree with what everyone else has said. This site has many positives but sometimes I still find reading about other people’s grief can make me feel worse. Especially if they are further on their journey. But it’s a strange feeling, it’s like it makes your own grief spill over but then afterwards you feel better knowing there are lots of people who totally understand what you are going through. Unlike most of our family and friends. Hope this makes sense. Please stick around and dip in and out as you see fit. Hopefully, you will find it beneficial. Take care.
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Thank you
It is a bit intense at the moment.
We did eveything together and it will be strange doing it on my own.
Dont have any close friends who stay near but have nice neighbours so maybe need to make effort to speak to them more often.
Take care x
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@Hopeful1 and @Galaxy75 It is very early days. Many of us did not join this site for several months after losing our partners. The main benefits I think are that you know you are not alone, that you can vent all your emotions and not be judged, that you can see others much further along who can tell you what has happened to them, and you can make friends as well. If there is someone you feel is on your wavelength and in a similar position you can always PM them and chat. Sometimes there will be people who live close who you may meet.
Many of us have found this. I hope you do too.
xx
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Hi @Hopeful1
I found this site at Christmas when i was 3 months in and not in a good place, it has been a lifesaver. I agree it can be hard at times but everyone is so supportive. I am 38 weeks today, and you are very early on in your grief. I hope you stay and this site helps you like it has me and many others.
Sending love to all xx
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