Not sure where to start

Coping with bereavement
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I am at a loss into where to start. Lost 3 family members at the same time. Horrific circumstances. I know thats brief but really dont know how to say more

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You’ve started somewhere, so well done. You’re in the right place. :yellow_heart:

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Thank you. It is so difficult for me to even start to say about my loss. I havent accepted it at all. I cant face it.

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There’s no need to say anything until or if you want to. You’re among people who understand. Just take care of yourself; and perhaps ask your doctor for help.

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I have been to the Dr . Its not a loss through illness or accident or old age which makes it hard to start talking about things

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@AliMH
I think the brain only allows us to cope with loss bit by bit, and even then it can be overwhelming. The best advice I was given in the early days of raw grief was to take one minute, one hour, one day at a time. Try to focus on looking after yourself and make sure you eat, even just little and often. You say the circumstances of the deaths of your family members are horrific. I found this site a lifeline in being able to talk about my partner’s death with people who had also lost a loved one, so talk if you want to talk, knowing that the people on this forum are experiencing their own grief. Like @Burgled said, you are in the right place. Sending strength your way as you navigate this horrible grief journey.

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Kms1. Thank you. Its sensitive as it will be going to court next year. They were murdered.

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And please dont think i mean that other deaths of loved arent horrific because they are . Its just the circumstances of why the died. I didnt mean any offence x

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@AliMH
I am so sorry to hear that - it is truly horrific. I am sure that no one will take any offence by you describing their deaths in that way. I cannot begin to imagine how bad things are for you, but ‘just hang on’. That advice has kept me going through times of deep despair, and there have been plenty of those. I understand that the details are sensitive, but if you want to share how you are feeling, I am sure many of us will be able to support you.

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Dear @AliMH
Sending hugs.
Please don’t say anything which might jeopardise the court case but as @KMS1 says, if you want to share your feelings we’re ready to listen and offer support. I hope you can get some comfort from this site. Stay strong.

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I cant say too much but all i know is that the anger inside me is tearing me apart. People have notice a change in. I cant help it and i try to stay “happy” but its difficult. All emotions in 1 day!

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Anger is a funny thing as a relative once told me the line between the two is very fine so crossing the love you have for family into anger that you have no idea where came from is very normal and a part of grief