Dave 51 when you say bereavement help contacting you , is it a specific organization. I certainly need help, my so called step family have completely abandoned me in the past week apart from step daughter but she lives 2.5 hours away and has her own life which is fine but I don’t expect to see her much after the funeral. But when the funeral is over(29th July) I suspect zero contact from the rest which is disappointing but Sally was the glue that kept everyone together so with her gone, so too is the binder of the family. Disappointing but not surprising.
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Ned I’m really not to sure because my mental health nurse has organised it for me. If it wasn’t for the mental health nurse I don’t no where I would’ve gone because I had a mini breakdown of which I have no memory of. It looks like you’re going to need someone or something. Try your local council social work department as they have good help they can give you. It’s horrible how some people treat people going through the grief process. I wish you all the luck in the world my friend.
Nedh
The last few words ‘ disappointing but not surprising’ really sums it all up doesn’t it and I’m sure a lot of people will feel the same, about their friends and family who have just seemed to abandon them. Take Care x
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that the world is doing badly makes society do badly, as well. affects every sector, including loss and grief.
I am sorry you are experiencing the world as such an uncaring environment after your sad loss People are sometimes thoughtless but it seems from historical records people cared less for suffering of others in the past than they do now
I wonder why are you criticising those people who you say care more about people suffering from unnecessary deaths abroad and claiming they don t care about their own relatives and neighbours in the UK What evidence or personal experience do you have of this
I myself am involved with the Peace movement I am widow of 2 years and miss my husband greatly But have found people who care about loss of others in such places as Gaza or Ukraine always very sympathetic and supportive to me in my time of loss Perhaps you should join us
Compassion for others is not a commodity like water that runs out or should be restricted to close family You must actively cultivate it in yourself share it
I am very sorry you feel so negative and angry about the world I hope these feelings will pass eventually pass and you can lead a peaceful life
@Stranger1 i am just stating the truth.a lot of people do seem to care more about people they dont know and not about people they do or should. i am sympathetic with people i know but am not interested in gaza etc in the slightest (which has nothing to do with this)
why do you accuse me of being negative and angry with the world, which i am not, i see things as they are, people are involved with their own little worlds nowadays, some like to have people think they care behind a computer screen but if it was someone close to them asking for sympathy or help you wouldnt see their arses for dust. long gone are the days when neighbours and family were close knit, where they all helped each other etc.
i am not pretending to care about stuff or lie about it just to get someone to bother about me, no way
Thank you for your interesting response I am probably a bit older than you and agree life has changed a great deal over time Such as the break down of the extended family, working patterns, women’s role outside the home and greater geographical migration Plus of course improvements in technology so people communicate in many different ways rather just popping in to neighbours
It doesn’t mean they care any less for others You may experience it that way but that is not evidence It’s just your opinion from looking through your own individual lense
Your post seemed to stress that you found other people uncaring and that you were angry and uncomfortable with their behaviour towards you
I don’t think I accused you of anything There is nothing wrong with having strong feelings such as anger it’s part of the grief process but it is not a positive emotion and can deprive one of peace
I have no idea what your individual circumstances are Whether you are able to find the positive support you need and energy to live a full life
I hope you find peace
I must admit society has changed a great deal people did care ie neighbours would call around to check on you but not for nosiness like it is now. Grief is a thing we have to deal with in our own way each of us are so different. If you have family members nearby that’s a good start, but eventually that will fade as they have someone to talk to and share a meal with. So like I am doing is taking 1 min at a time. Blessings
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Thats all you can do, i managed to throw a couple bits away of mums today to shape the living room a little. Try and do something even if its only a little a day. Theres never any rush and do what you feel and are capable of.
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That’s all you can do my friend. That’s what we have in plenty mr time. Blessings
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It is important that we are all supportive of each other in this community. We have all lost soulmates and it continues to be devastating for us therefore empathy in abundance from all of us to all of us as we struggle to cope
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Well said and ty. Blessings
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@Stranger1 you accused me of being negative, angry and having no compassion. wrong on all levels. i am annoyed at some people but i am NOT angry at anyone and my life is very peaceful thanks. technology has not improved anything really, its pushed pepole away from each other even more tbh. they can sit on their arses and talk to people on thier phones rather than get involved with anyone and in a lot of cases sociasl media has caused more trouble than anything else.
i miss my husband same as anyone on here, but i am not interested in any peace movements, not interested in people who want to blow each other up, doesnt concern me. again i am not angry at the world and i am 70 btw.
Hello everyone,
This thread is getting a little heated, and I would ask you all to please remember that the primary purpose of this community is grief support. Our community guidelines ask everyone to be respectful and sensitive to each other.
Thanks,
Seaneen
Well spoken. Blessings to you
@Seaneen i apologise but i dont being acused of things i am not. again sorry if i offended anyone
@SueF1 It’s hard when you are grieving and everyone on here is and everyone understands. Nobody is offended I’m sure . Look after yourself Sue x
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Hi sue. Yes we all are carrying grief but we are still open to all possibilities and of course we get offended. We are here to give words of comfort and pass on ways we cope as it could be useful to somebody else. I am always here and ready to listen because it helps me to. Blessings
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Hi- i too am like you…
Carrying on for my children else deep down i think id have crumbled a long time ago.
My dad was my rock.
I hope your well, and if you ever need to chat 