Every time I think about that fact it terrifies me. I know there’s that old saying ‘It’s better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all’ but right now I’m almost wishing I had never known such love. To spend two thirds of my life married to a man (we married at 20 and he died at 61) and for him to just quite literally disappear off the face of the earth without any warning and for me to know that I will never ever see him again is unbearable. And although I know I WILL have to live out the rest of my life without him on one level, on another level my brain hasn’t fully processed that fact. This is basically a living hell.
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@Juniper19 i feel exactly the same after 13 months . Mine died suddenly and unexpectedly age 59 and I’ve not processed it yet either . I don’t want life without him - even though I wouldn’t act in my thoughts . It’s so awful knowing I’ve potentially got a fair amount of years ahead of me on my own because I’m certain I wouldn’t want anyone else in my life . He was my one and only true love xxx
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That’s just how I feel too. I lost the love of my life just about 2 months ago. We had been married 44 years. I’m 68, so I could live almost that long without him. There will never be room in my life for anyone else. I don’t think I’ve fully processed it all yet. It’s just an unbearable to thought.
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@paeony no the thought of replacing our loved ones is just too horrible to contemplate isn’t it . It’s not something I can even begin to think about xxx
Juniper 19
So sorry for your loss know the feeling met my husband when i was 19 ,we were married 42 years and together 45years and i feel like i am in a bad nightmare
I walk a lot and i do go to the cemetery at least once a week and play Dave his favourite
Music ,
Not a journey we all want to be on
Take care ,hugs,
Sue
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I feel the same no one will replace my husband ,my soulmate
Heartbroken without him
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I’m finding it all very hard to carry on without my husband he was my rock
He had been ill for 3 and a half years
I’m just can’t see a way past any off this
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It’s a terrifying thought I agree. I try not to think about it i could possibly have 30 + years without him it’s impossible to think about
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@Susie3021 Thank you - same to you - I wish I could go for a walk I’ve got MS and really struggle with my mobility, thankfully I can drive so I get out and about. Yes, worst journey of my life and the road looks endless x
Too much to process
@Pam14 My husband died suddenly and unexpectedly he hadn’t been ill - in fact I’m beginning to think the hospital let him down and it’s eating me up inside, I’m speaking to PALS etc - but it’s hard whichever way it happens x
Pam 14
So very sorry for your loss,i know the early days are horrendous
I lost my husband October 2022, and it still feels like a nightmare ,
I walk a lot, and go out with a friends shopping or for a meal,
Take care big hugs,
Sue
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Juniper 19
Take care ,not a journey we all want to be on , lost my husband suddenly
Still feels like a bad nightmare,
Big hugs
Sue
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Unfortunately we only had each others company didn’t really have friends so I do most things on my own x
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Pam14,
Bless you,so difficult without our loved ones,
Are there any groups you can join were widows meet
Take care
@Pam14 We did lots of stuff together, and I dont have many friends. I play golf, and I play bowls so at least i get to meet up with people. Do you have any interests where there might be a local group you could join? Maybe WI, knit and natter or similar. At least you would have contactcwith people.
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