How many times am I getting told that, and what’s the relevance?
So by that logic, I should just leave him to fend for himself (he can barely pick up a spoon now), and die alone painfully in a pool of his own bodily excretions then?
Terminal illness is still terminal illness, there is still a duty of care. And especially if the partner looks to YOU to support them. Of course I know my boundaries and I won’t be taking caring responsibilities away from the main caregiving family member, as it’s precious time spent together too, I will be only covering when they are unavailable, or when they get too overwhelmed.
Doesn’t matter if the relationship is 6 months or 60 years, married or not even living together, its still the same feeling, the impending loss of someone significantly important to you.
My plan? Do whatever the Fk I want and ignore people. Which is to take care of him right up until the end.
Arghh rant over!
5 Likes
I personally think that it’s even more beautiful to take the responsibility of looking after someone who you have known for a shorter time than others. It shows how deeply you love your partner. My wife became friends with a lovely 31 year old girl with a rare bone cancer. She had a boyfriend of 25 and he stayed with her during her 3 year battle. I think it showed him to be an amazing person. It isn’t easy especially for a young man in his early twenties to have the emotional maturity deal with it.
I think you are a great inspiration to everyone
Here’s hoping you receive all the strength you need
Tom
2 Likes
Thank you for your post, that is a really touching story as well 
I’ve only been getting these comments from a small number of friends, and I can see they are well meaning and protective as they are concerned that I took a lot on, with caretaking for both parents and it was intense, and its too soon after my parents passed.
So they are wary of me taking on another caring role whilst I’m still grieving, where they feel I shouldn’t have to because of the concept that “boyfriends come and go”
Well, this one is going for sure. It’s not his fault he got terminal cancer, and he didn’t plan the timing either. It came out of left field, nobody saw it coming and he didn’t even have any symptoms, no headaches at all. Just a week of developing subtle stroke symptoms but up until that, he was doing 10 hours a day at work in a physically demanding job!
2 Likes
I’m sorry it must be a very difficult situation to deal with. I hope neither of you suffer too much. You are a lovely person 
Tom
2 Likes