Ive been going through all the little bits and pieces my husband and I saved over the years. Each one brings a memory back to me of how we lived together for all those years. Nothing of any monetry value, but priceless to me, they are telling me that we loved each other, and we were happy together. I have been questioning myself wether i was a good wife, would he have been happier with someone else? I have cried a lot today doing this, i have had to take several breaks, i now have a heavy head from all the crying but in a way i feel better, because i know he was happy and he did love me. I miss him so much i don’t like being alone.
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Hi Dorrie81, it is still early days I lost my David in May. There are so many reminders all around our homes, ornaments we bought on holidays, the kitchen things we chose together, gifts we bought each other, plants in the garden we chose together. Right now these things are a solace but also a stab of pain when we see them but I think as time goes by we will be able to smile and think of them without weeping.
Being alone is dreadful, are you able to join any community groups, craft groups or singing groups, it is not good to be alone all the time and being with others does help us in our recovery. There is a group called Jollie Dollies that will put you in touch with other widows in your area and you can go out for coffee or a walk together. It costs about £20 for the year. There is also a group called WaysUp that is similar. I have met some lovely ladies/widows and we have a nice time but can also talk about widowhood and we understand each other perfectly. Also keep posting on here as it helps a lot. Have you got a Help The Aged in your town…they are very helpful too. Hope this helps you and gives you some hope Dorrie. X
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Hi Penny thank you for replying. The loneliness i am feeling is grief i know that. Only being with my husband can take that away and i know thats not possible. I have been introduced to our local community centre and that helps being with other people, mainly ladies. I have a group of friends and we meet for a meal and a catch up, but most of them still have their husbands so don’t really understand the pain i am feeling. I know this is a process we all go through , im no different to anyone else, but its been a difficult day for me.
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