My much loved mum passed three years ago, with dementia and for the first year I was okay, grief has crept up on me and now I cry at the slightest thing that reminds me of her. I live 200 miles from my siblings so have no-one to share this with, but I am not coping at all.
Hi Jacks
Sorry for you loss and for all you’re going through. I hope it helps to know you’re not alone.
I lost both my parents within 16 weeks of each other last year. I live far away from my siblings.
I’m feeling guilty as I can remember my Dad’s funeral, but my Mum’s, 2 weeks before Christmas is a blur.
I think grief affects us all differently, what you are feeling is very normal.
Keep posting on here .
Hi Jacks, I realise how difficult it is, I’ve been there, got the tee shirt! When I got stuck and couldn’t see the way forward, A good friend asked me to look at my future and think “this is the last chapter of my life, how would I like it to be?
We are the authors of our own destiny”
So I sat down and started writing the plot. It had things in there such as
Where wilI I live?
How will I arrange my finances?
Do I want a romantic interest, or just platonic friends of the opposite sex?
What type of holidays do I want?
What new hobbies do I want?
What lifestyle do I want to generate?
How will I put myself in a position to meet new people and make new friends?
etc, etc
Because I had decided to be my own author, I actually grabbed a pen and paper and wrote it down, so I could go back and read it when I lost my way.
Then bit by bit, often slowly, I did things which moved me in the direction I had written down.
Sometimes I realised I had got it wrong, so I rubbed it out and replaced it with a better version.
But I steadily moved into my new life, and I’m pretty happy again. I haven’t left my old life, and the memories, behind me. This is just my new chapter, the old chapters are still in my life’s book, and I often go back to read them.
Good luck, we all realise how difficult it is.
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Hi jacks l lost my wife 2 weeks ago from dimentia life will go on the lady who wrote a list down this is a good thought .While my wife was so ill l did the same . I have joined a lunch club and it helps there is life after some one leves us and very slowly on this journey things do get better . I am going to try cruise as well keep putting posts. Up it helps ken Oxford