My Mother in law passed away sadly Feb this year.
She was wrongly diagnosed past year kept saying it was reacurring infections.
But not all that time?
Gradually the pain got worse my husband was staying with her told me she was calling out go a lot as she was in pain. I becsme more involved( long story) in her came got diagnose bowel cancer redicoulous they left her too late. Said ahe had get coloscopy bag & big op
Or she didnt have long.
They said this would give her better quality of life. Prolong her life.
Thet shoukd have just left her be with dignity.
As time when on after she got the big op she was in & out of hospital.
Then she started to pick up.
But before christmas she very unsteadu on her feet.
I said to the nurse why does she not have bedrails on her bed keep her safe. She said it was a restriction & didnt need it.
Then even although she still sire in pain.
Nurse said not good for her lying in bed.
She need to get up move about.
Agony watch her get up
Anyway yip following day she had really bad fall.
She fell out of bed back in hospital again
If she had rail guards fitted she wouldnt have fell.
Things got worse from there on. We only ever seen marie curie nurses once.
Never heard from them again.
Mother in law got trabsferred back in hospitsl.
Husband saud she not right talking noinsence
I went up to the hospital. Ask what drugs she was on as she was hullusanating. Side effects.
Told them she does not have dementia normally memory great.
Eventually check her meds dosage too high.
Why does it take days for them to check things.
Can they not see if there paitent seems different disoriantanted?
Husband ex husband to quiet he scared he offend annoy nurses.
Also shocking they left her so long in bef that her bah had burst.
Bed and her siaked right through
I approach them about thst to.
Thins happen a few times.
Every time i went to vidit hrr i always had to ask nurses when they lsst changed coloscopy bag and constantly had to ask about her mefs and strength.
She was meanr to move to a hospice
Then said she was picking up
Then month later said no. Too far gone she couldnt be moved. Coukdnt sit up by herself or eat drink properly. Coiuld if supported
Had srewdriver/pain releif.
Then noticed she was gasping for a drink finsal 2 days they taken her of everything no water. Thought that was bad.
Like your strarved to death
Said she didnt have long. Scary heavy deep breathing. Lookbso different frail eyes wide.
Taken 2 days she died in wee side room of big main ward hospital
We were with her.
Got leaflet in our hand & got her belongings in a bag said could stay as long as we want to say goodbye.
I’m so sorry for your loss, what a dreadful time you all have had, it’s awful to see someone you care about in such pain, and not be able to do anything about it, it sounds as if the care she had was severely lacking, it might be worth getting in touch with the hospital and ask to speak to somebody about it, so hopefully it doesn’t happen to anybody else’s relative, you certainly did everything you could to help her. Sending love to you all, Jude xx
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