Anyone else oversleeping?
I feel bad complaining, as I would rather this than insomnia, but I can’t help wondering what’s going on.
My wife died six months ago, I loved her very deeply, and have struggled ever since. She was only 46, and had been fighting cancer for several years. She hated hospice, so I cared for her as best I could at home with the help of district nurses and the local hospice team. Towards the end, it was a 24 hour a day job, and I had to be ready to jump up and be at her side any time of day or night.
Since she died, I have been through a whirlwind of pain and misery. But one of the things I didn’t anticipate was sleeping so much. Six months on I easily sleep twelve hours plus every night, and generally feel I could keep sleeping. I’m self employed and just starting to try and get back to work, so that isn’t a problem yet. But I can’t help wondering if it’s bad for me, while I often feel I get nothing done, and the house is a bit of a tip.
Anyone else experienced anything similar?
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Yes I have and a year down the road I still find that I am exhausted some days though trying to get a routine as go to bed far too late and then get up to late which makes me groggy and not feeling motivated.
It’s sounds like you did so much for your wife so you are bound to be exhausted… grief makes you exhausted and your emotions can make you physically and mentally tired. You may also have depression which can make you exhausted.
Try and give yourself a routine, go for a walk and try and eat healthy. Try mediation and reading… though harder than said as I should really start eating properly. Be kind to yourself as you may need the sleep. Take care and so sorry that you have lost your wife and find yourself on this journey which you didn’t want Xx
Also I was meant to add to take a trip down to your doctor’s as could be a under lining problem which may need checking. X
Thank you for your kind, thoughtful response. As I said I almost feel guilty for complaining about this. To be honest, sleeping is often the best part of the day, and I spent so long on a trigger to wake up if I was needed, that maybe it isn’t surprising.
But it’s hard not to wonder what’s going on. And you are absolutely right that I need to have my overall health checked out. I have a dreadful needle phobia (I have dental treatment done without anaesthetic - I’m that bad) so that’s another hill I need to climb.
But, I’m rambling. Thanks for your response. I feel slightly less weird now!
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Aww your not weird at all… or rambling on. your grieving and going through a very difficult journey in your life.
I also hate needles as have so many blood tests but I hate the dentist even more so put on my big girl pants.
Let us know how you get on at the doctor’s and remember to keep reaching out on here as everyone really understands what you are going through. Take care and big hugs xx