Mum died December 2023, Dad October 2024, my sister December 2024. Yesterday we were at the house, “clearing” . I woke up this morning beside myself, I don’t think I’ve cried like that before. It’s just awful… I don’t know what else to say 
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Daphne, You are really going through it, Just keeps raining down on you. I hope you feel a little bit better this morning. Once you have finished the clearing, which is so hard seeing the remnants of their lives. I still was unable to sort out my wife’s clothes on my own, but with a friend of my wife’s help we have now made a start. Perhaps when you have finished dealing with this, you will be able to find something to make you smile, in my case the grandchildren ( 2 and 4 ) can still make me smile.
That’s so kind of you. I go through spells of being fine (ish) & then it’s like something knocks me for six. It’s like I’m super sensitive to any type of reminder. I suppose I’ve just got to accept that this is grief
Daphne i am so so sorry for your losses and really truly feel your intense pain. I too lost 3 members of my family in short space of time. My brother unexpectedly in July 23, dad October 24 and mum February 25. We cry coz we love and miss them. People around us get back to their normal lives whilst our lives have changed forever. But we have to learn to live missing them but knowing they are always in our hearts 
You are so right! Initially, people were so kind etc etc now it’s as though everything is back to normal. And it’s not. I understand that they have to get on with their lives. In some ways I’m finding it harder now. When it was all happening, I just got on with it. Now I look back and it was so so awful. But life must go on.
I think the initial shock put you in auto mode and you get on with things without really deeping it. As weeks, months go by it suddenly hits and you realise how traumatic the situation is. But somehow we are given the strength to accept and keep on going. Nothing will ever be the same and our lives change to living without them physically in our lives but living within our hearts and minds every single moment of the day.