Today i am finding it really hard to cope. I just cant stop feeling overwhelmed and cry. Its fathers day tomorrow and it will be hard for my children but I am really feeling so down. I dont think i can cope with this grief.
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Yes, weekends are really difficult. I manage the weekdays better, just one hour at a time. Special family times like Father’s Day magnify our loss. Nothing else for it but to put one foot in front of the other and wait for the crashing waves to wash over us.
Just know that we are all here for each other.
Much love, hang on in there. Xx
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Yes Father’s Day is going to be a difficult day for many, especially if it the first one I imagine. My 4 kids are not looking forward to it but we are planning to go for a day trip somewhere we often went as a family, and have a cake and special dinner as we normally would.
I wonder sometimes if these “celebration”days actually help a little with bringing out any grief we are suppressing, so helping us to keep moving forward.
3 months isn’t a long time so your grief will still be very raw and I also find at 3 months things are feeling worse - probably as the shock starts to wear off.
Look after yourself as much as you can, don’t beat yourself up for what you are struggling with and just manage what you can. You’ve coped so far so just keeping doing the same each day - it will get easier
Sending you much strength xx
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Thank you both for your words of strength! Our grief is so raw and painful. Day by day there is this feeling which creeps up and I think OMG he is gone! THE REALITY KICKS I N. Then the memories come flooding in. I am 57 with one daughter(married) and a son. Both are not coping too well. I know i need to be strong for them and they are always there for me. However, I continue to feel alone. What does my future look like? I will my life unfold? The fear of being lonely is there and quite overwhemling. There are so many negative feelings.
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Celebrations without him are devastating and as it is the first, it highlights the eay I am feeling. So much ahead without him.
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Thinking about him always with heartache, I want to think about him with it being painful. I want yhis difficult time to fly by so my grief can be less painful. I dont know if I am making sense but I know you understand this turmoil of confusion and fear.
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Sorry I meant WITHOUT if being painful
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Hi,
sadly I think that the main answer is time.
Giving yourself time to grieve which involves sadness.
Also, talking about how you feel, about your husband.
If possible, do some things for you.
Some things that occupy your mind.
I know, you don’t always feel like it or think what’s the point.
Take care,
Rose xx
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Time is the healer. Today my children took me out for a game of tennis and lunch. We just got back. It was nice spending quality time with them and talking about their dad. It was a comforting day. God bless.
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I am 56 and have one son , my husband died 9 weeks ago suddenly heart attack , he was 65, we had been together 24 years and eloped to Gretna Green and married 17 months ago ! I feel totally robbed ! He has 3 grown up children but they hardly bothered with him so they certainly won’t bother with me ! I have friends and I have started to go back to work 3 days but I feel lonely, he was my life , and at 56 the thought of spending the rest of my life like this ! But I don’t want anyone else ! I was married twice before my Nick that’s why I know It’s Nick or no one and as I can’t have Nick well then it’s no one x
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Totally understand.
No one will ever match my husband
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Agree- so many of us feel the person we have lost was our soulmate and impossible to replace.
Big hugs to all our friends feeling sad, lonely or just missing that very special person.
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Big hugs to you xx
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