Paralised with grief and fear

I lost my mum 17 yrs ago I have not gotten over it or accepted it fully, i don’t think. Suddenly earlier this year my brother passed now I am struggling even more. I feel paralised with grief and fear, my mum was only 66 and my brother didn’t reach 62. I have been waiting to hear about counselling but it’s been a year and i haven’t heard anything still. My children are scattered around the country and I am full time carer to my husband. I feel lost, invisible, unloved and unwanted at times, which I know is not the case but I feel so lonely at times. I try not to wallow but most days "i just can’t be bothered " can any one give me some advice on how to move forward because right now I am struggling to find purpose in anything.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum and brother, @Snoozee. I’m not sure if you’ve seen it, but we have a section for sibling loss which you can find here: Losing a sibling - Sue Ryder Online Bereavement Community

You may find it helpful or comforting to read threads from other members who have sadly experienced the loss of a sibling.

I’m sure someone will be along to share their thoughts but I just wanted you to know that you are not alone.

Take care,
Seaneen

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