Hi so I’m 54 in a few weeks. I lost my father when I was 20 and my mum in 2020. My situation is different from most on here as when mum passed I became sole carer for my downs syndrome sister. When Dad passed I don’t feel like I grieved for him as there was so much to do and I had to be the strong one for my mum and my 3 younger siblings Now I feel the same thing has happened again with mum. I feel guilty as three years and I am not even beginning to deal with what happened with Mum. Some days I have to force myself to do daily tasks. My release is crafting but I feel guilty for giving myself time to do that. Both of my brothers suffered with long term mental health issues after losing Dad. They don’t even go to our parents grave it’s heartbreaking. Thanks for reading.
Hello @Patchy,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your parents. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Thank you Alex
I really hope you find helpful advice on here, I’ve been reading lots and have found it to be warm, supportive resource.
Thank you 