Has anyone who’s mum or dad had a post mortem visited them at the funeral directors after the PM
My funeral director is slowly getting things together so all we need to is agree on a date and happened to ask would I want to see her
Same with the ashes she never made a comment oh scatter them here bury them there
Hi Goblin Queen,
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Yes my dad had a post-mortem & I not only visited him at the funeral parlour but we also had him home the night before his funeral for the wake. That was nearly 14 years ago though. Dad was buried & that was what he wanted.
Mum just passed away late July. She asked to be cremated. She didnt want to be buried or scattered. She said if you scatter me where will I be. So glad she could tell me that or else we would have buried her with dad.
Do you have a specific question on visiting the funeral parlour?
Hi
My mum had a postmortem and the funeral director was a friend of mine and i asked him to be honest about how she looked with regards to visiting her at the funeral home. He just said no he wouldnt advise it. So i followed his advise. With regards to the ashes i didnt know what my mum wanted so we decided to buy a plot at the cemetry and she is there, we have someone to go and visit.
Same here they were friends with my mum for decades and they said they’d advise if I wanted to see the body
The autopsy scars are hidden well ( under clothes & hair) so unless you went looking for them you wouldn’t notice them.
My funeral director is the same the owner of the company had known mum for decades and said don’t see her - it wasn’t just the autopsy but the fact it had been 3 weeks since she died , although she’s only been gone just over 7 weeks I’ve no real memories of what she looked like as she never let me keep photos that were taken always had me delete them
They mustn’t have been cold storing the body properly or have embalmed her @goblinqueen666. I saw my dad 4 weeks later ( he died the week before Xmas 14 years ago so it took time to get the post-mortem done & organise the funeral) & in July my mum around 3 weeks later & there was nothing distressing about either of them.