Partner passed away 10 weeks ag

Losing a partner
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My partner passed away nearly 10 weeks ago now. I miss her so much. Everyday is a struggle, every meal time I breakdown as mainly I did the meals now just me which brings it all back, a meal I eat I think she used to like this and break down in tears.

In the day I wonder what to do, I don’t really have any friends but she knew everyone but no one come round now. I used to do everything for her as she struggled now she no longer here im lost.

The worst time is at night, not sleeping well I have a pillow with picture of her face on it which I hug. And wearing some of her cloths to confort me, miss having her arm round me getting close to me to get warm of me.

I have seen doctor as I have heart issues waiting on operation myself and blood pressure isn’t good I asked for help sleeping but all I got was monitor your blood pressure for next two weeks and I will see you then.

I must admit that I keep asking for her to come for me so we can be together again as I carnt see a future on my own.

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Hello @AD1965,

I’m so sorry to hear about your partner. You’re not alone in finding nights particularly difficult, many of our members do and I hope you will keep reaching out.

You mention that you did everything for he. A lot of people told us that when someone they were caring for has died, they can find that the change in routine on top of their bereavement is really difficult.

We have a range of free bereavement support at sueryder.org/support, including a Grief Guide, our Bereavement information and more. You might find our support page on loneliness after a bereavement especially helpful right now.

You may want to check out The Silver Line. They offer friendship, conversation, and support to people aged 55 and over. You can call them for free, any time of day or night, on 0800 4708090.

Take good care of yourself,
Seaneen

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