passing of wife

Losing a partner
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my wife was diagnosed with cancer 3 years ago but it rapidly spread her wish was for us to at last get married we got married on the 14th december 2024 on the 3rd of january 2025 she passed away in my arms in st lukes hospice feel so alone now as i have no family left at all i can only keep thinking abut joining my wife i am just lost without the love of my life

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Hello @Voyerger ,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your wife that brings you here. It sounds as though things are very tough and you are feeling so alone and lost.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not know where to start.

We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving, and it is often about wanting the person who has died back or life to go back to how we know it. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:

https://griefguide.sueryder.org/support/suicide

There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • You can call 111 and choose the mental health option to speak to a trained mental health professional (England, Scotland and Wales only)

  • Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

  • Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Voyerger , get in touch with one of these services.

Take care,
Alex

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Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone, I lost my beloved husband on 23rd November 2024 to cancer. My life has been turned upside down, i struggle every day without him, people say im strong by living each day but i don’t feel strong, he was my rock and now its gone.

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Thank you it may be people think were strong day by day but there so wrong it hurts everyday they were our whole world and now there gone