So having spent most of the day cleaning etc in anticipation of my son coming for Christmas it was nice to have something to look forward to. My “friend” had arranged to meet up with me for a pre-Christmas drink after I’d done all of my housework etc. I was looking forward to it as I have been feeling very low/vulnerable these last few days and suddenly less than an hour before we were due to meet up she messages me to cancel, no explanation. This isn’t the first time she has done this so I’m beginning to think that this is not a good friendship, she basically wants to be everybody’s friend! I’m really struggling at the moment, I suppose I keep reflecting on how things were last year when it seemed that Keef was getting ill. He may have been gone 10 months but it still hurts so much and this time of year seems to make everything worse. Sorry to rant, but I needed to say something. I may well still pop out as after I’ve picked up my son tomorrow I don’t suppose I will be doing much socialising!
@Guineapig65. It’s perfectly ok to get things out and rant. Your “friend” is very thoughtless but, unfortunately, we all seem, at one time or another, to have experienced this selfish behaviour, I know I have.
It is nearly a year since I lost my dear husband and I miss him more than ever, the hurt never goes away. This time of year makes it so much worse.
As you say, try and go out and think how nice it will be to see your son.
Sending best wishes.
Sorry you find yourself in this forum. As Rome18 said we have all experienced a so called friend letting us down i know i have many many times and now i just can’t be bothered with people like that. Nori,s right new year new friends. At least you have your son coming for xmas. Wishing you the best xmas you can have .
Thats not very nice ! How mean of your friend. Bless you - no wonder youre upset 
i dunno whats wrong with people anymore - theyre so mean ! I think people got worse since covid … ?? Yes its 12 months exactly last weekend for me and it still hurts and i miss him and this time of year just seems to make everything worse because you remember what you have lost while everybody is playing happy families ! And love and strength to everyone at xmas time and we will all get through this together … as the beatle song says - i get by with a little help from my friends xx
Thank you everyone for understanding. Up early to catch the coach to pick up my son, so hopefully our family Christmas will then start. I think sometimes some people want to be seen to be helping others, but they don’t really seem to be aware of how we might be feeling. I did end up popping out to our local micropub and the people there were really kind, particularly as I couldn’t stop crying. It was nice to see that there are some kind and caring people around so made me feel a bit better.
Ive found some people talk the talk but if you ask for help always excuses all talk no actions .Im done with people like that tbh they drain you xxx
Yeh its funny how people just arent conveniently there when you need them isnt it ? ;( X
Yes Debs its happened to me but the worst was when my partner was ill for 17 month before he died and awful.things his family stooped too is just unforgivable .xxx
So sorry @Hope5 to hear you were even treated badly whilst your partner was poorly, I didn’t experience that or even after my husband first died, but as time has gone on, the support has lessened apart from the odd one or two lovely people. So much more genuine support from friends I have made from the the forum.
At least we know now who our real friends are.
Thankyou and it was how they treated him heart breaking He didnt deserve any of that xxx
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Aw … sorry to hear that ! Oh my family were all around when they found out how poorly he was … its just since then … they all gone back into the woodwork … i have recently started talking to my sister a bit … after a year !! x
How they treated him ? What when he was a poorly man ? ;( x
Yes some people have no conscious. Not great at the moment missing him so.much how are you today has your family been in touch ?xxx
No im not great either ! It feels like you’re getting the knife twisted in just to make you feel ten times worse no kids been in touch … im sick of em xx
Sorry to hear that and your right feels like we are getting punished doasnt just when you think it carnt get any worse it does .xxx
Yep … its awful linnit x
